Hi everyone - just wanted to say (to people who may be reading this later on, or in the future) that onionpie's advice to stick to the distance and lack-of-contact was absolutely the best possible advice. It was really hard (and here I am almost 6 months after breaking up with this person, and it's ...

Hi Onionpie

Yep, I'm really happy to be seeing a therapist and it is helping a lot.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful words. I've continued to come back to them multiple times since you posted, and they are really useful for calming down and centering myself. I appreciate them a lot.

Hey :) Yes, it is confusing and distressing. It is hard because I feel like I can't even trust my own emotions and that's the first time this has ever happened to me. In past breakups, even with kind of toxic people, even if I really cared about them and missed them, I felt deep down that it was tim...

Hi Sam, thanks for your reply :). You're right about the very long process. I actually have been reading Bancroft's book over the past day - a lot of it is not relevant to me as my relationship was much less extreme than a lot of the things he outlines, but it's still extremely relevant and useful i...

Hi everyone, I posted a while ago about an abusive relationship (http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?t=4511) that I recently got out of and, as I continue to recover from and process it, I have a new issue that I wanted to write to you about. This ex-boyfriend sexually assaulted me multiple t...

I don't think I need any more help around this for now. Thank you, though!

Hi! Thank you both so much for your replies. - I do want to see a counsellor, but it's not a plausible option for me right now. I'll be starting at university next February, hopefully, and I'll try to get some support asap once I'm there. - Yes, I did actually end up comforting and reassuring him :/...

I was dating a guy for a few months this year and we broke up about a month ago. After we broke up, I realised (thanks to reading scarleteen!!!) that he had emotionally and sexually abused me (even after I had told him that I had been raped in the past, after I gave him multiple educational material...