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- Wed Jan 06, 2016 5:06 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
UPDATE: I finally was able to separate my bank account from my parents today since I got my financial aid refund earlier than expected, and I sent them a fairly brief no-contact-for-a-while email letter. it was really nerve-wracking and anxiety-inducing for me to send it, but i know future-me will t...
- Mon Jan 04, 2016 4:53 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
hey Heather! thanks :) basically, I'd like to figure out: 1. ways that I can keep from blaming myself for the inevitable backlash that will occur after sending this message and 2. how to make sure this won't interfere with my financial aid refund that will be deposited into my account in mid-January...
- Mon Jan 04, 2016 4:01 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
UPDATE: hope y'all had a happy new year!! :) so, I recently visited a friend in another state for a couple days, and it was really fun! but now, i've got some things coming up with my parents again. my dad is starting to get more insistent on having lunch with me and talking on the phone and all tha...
- Thu Dec 31, 2015 2:22 pm
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: "No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4140
Re: "No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"
ah! i saw and "liked" it-- yay, glad you enjoyed it!
- Wed Dec 30, 2015 8:24 pm
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: "No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4140
"No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"
Found this article from Everyday Feminism and it seemed to have a lot of good stuff in it, so I figured I'd share it here! No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why (And 3 Things to Consider Instead)
- Mon Dec 28, 2015 3:47 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
thanks, Heather and Mo! yeah, i'll definitely continue to try and enjoy my alone-time/break
- Sun Dec 27, 2015 9:13 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
also, i just wanna add in addition to what i posted right above: i've been really enjoying being by myself. like, actually though. i mean, i've always needed to recharge by being by myself after hanging out with other people or going to different social events and whatnot. #IntrovertProblems but i c...
- Sun Dec 27, 2015 6:26 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
hey Redskies! I'm actually doing pretty okay, thanks for asking. continuing to be kind to myself and comfort myself while making some progress on my assignments (that are due in less than a week lol whoops, 'cause that's totally not stressful). It can definitely be tough to create emotional distance...
- Fri Dec 25, 2015 6:14 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
wow, you wrote a lot of great stuff here! I'll just go section-by-section then. haha :) That's a seriously kickass epiphany, and I'm so glad you had it. I also find it helpful to remind myself in family relationships where love is not being extended or shared with me that a) the primary person that ...
- Fri Dec 25, 2015 5:35 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
yeah, for sure. like I know they know on some level that I'm not actually okay, but they don't wanna see it or deal with it. also, usually it's in these situations that my little kid self starts to feel unlovable, but then I had a mini-epiphany tonight that: the way my parents treat me doesn't mean ...
- Fri Dec 25, 2015 5:13 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
alright, so I've only got 2 more hours to spend with my parents, and then I'm gonna hang out at a friend's place for the rest of the night, so that'll be fun! it's so weird... I feel like a doll, and to protect myself I've basically put myself on autopilot -- nodding at the right times, giving half-...
- Fri Dec 25, 2015 12:03 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
hey Heather! thanks, I really appreciate that I might take you up on that later today because my dad has already driven me kinda up a wall (and it's only 2 pm and I haven't even gone home yet) and I just am trying to be as kind to myself as possible during this time.
- Thu Dec 24, 2015 5:01 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
[didnt mean to make another post after my last one above-- things are weird to navigate on my phone sorry lol]
- Wed Dec 23, 2015 7:14 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
Hey Redskies! Thanks for getting back to me and sending all those helpful links. 1. I finally got an air mattress for dirt cheap! yay!! it really made me so happy today :D 2. I agree with you in that I'm basically at my coping limit and currently trying to do things for self-preservation at this poi...
- Tue Dec 22, 2015 8:52 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
sorry for the triple-post but I timed out for editing my last post: I'm just gonna sleep on the decision to see them or not a bit more and see how it goes from there. I'm still gonna need to think up my letter for whenever I send it though, since it has to be done at some point. like, before thanksg...
- Tue Dec 22, 2015 7:39 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
oh boy, a lot happened today since my post above from earlier in the day, and i have to pick up my debit card tomorrow and i couldn't even work on my assignments today because of something that came up.... i can't even go into everything without overloading y'all with even more information, and i do...
- Tue Dec 22, 2015 12:39 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
I'm actually blocking off time to do some homework tonight-- at the cafe where my dad is planning on dropping off the card to me. so, that'll be good to just sit there and focus with some coffee in-hand (and i think the internet might be more reliable there than the current cafe i'm in, so that's go...
- Tue Dec 22, 2015 10:10 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
just remembered another thing to add onto the post above: if i piss my parents off enough, they might stop paying for my schooling. that would really mess with my financial aid-- even if it meant receiving more money from them, that would take time and then the money i would use for rent and food fr...
- Mon Dec 21, 2015 7:35 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
okay, thanks for responding even though you had to leave, Mo! :) I'll just keep writing for anyone who sees this tomorrow or whenever (brace yourselves for a million questions and thoughts). maybe I'll wait til the 24th to tell them. I don't wanna tell them *right* after I get the card back... I fee...
- Mon Dec 21, 2015 6:55 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
BIG UPDATE: good news-- I got the extension! bad news-- I don't know if I'm gonna keep my sanity. I just agreed to have dinner with my parents at their place on Christmas... it caught me off guard because my dad wanted to talk to me on the phone instead of texting. apparently my dad is working durin...
- Mon Dec 21, 2015 5:22 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
hey! thanks for your replies, Mo, and all that info, too. I just texted my dad back asking for my debit card, and he's read it, but he hasn't replied after I asked what time he's free. and I replied to my mom letting her know that I'd let her know if I needed a ride and "thanks". I think m...
- Mon Dec 21, 2015 3:54 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
hey Mo! yeah, that's a good idea actually, since i'm kinda afraid they will. I'll get that first before I tell them anything else (it's gonna be so rough though, since they'll want a hug from me and the idea of showing them affection makes me so nauseous right now). and i don't know where in their a...
- Mon Dec 21, 2015 3:27 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
okay, that totally makes sense, i'll add those extra things in. thank you so much for taking the time to write to me even though you're busy, Redskies! also, because of my mom sending that "nice apology" text, i think i'm just gonna have to send my parents an email once-and-for-all explain...
- Mon Dec 21, 2015 2:34 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
UPDATE: my mom just sent me a "nice" text about apologizing for not telling me dad wasn't gonna be home for christmas and that "if [you] need a ride on christmas just let us know. have fun on xmas eve with your friends! love you" and I don't know what's going on anymore. she's do...
- Mon Dec 21, 2015 1:02 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
- Replies: 71
- Views: 17643
Re: Going Home for Winter Break
thanks so much, Redskies! it means a lot for you to say all those things and to validate my experiences and feelings like that. well, the only thing is my dad texted me earlier today asking "are you okay? <3" and I really don't wanna respond... but also my new debit card came in the mail t...