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- Fri May 17, 2024 7:05 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Desire to take my bullet vibe to school!
- Replies: 2
- Views: 165
Re: Desire to take my bullet vibe to school!
Hi Ellieww, and welcome to the boards! Masturbating in public is never recommended because it violates the consent of those around you. During any sexual act, you need the enthusiastic consent of all people involved. Masturbating in public (such as in school) violates this consent because the people...
- Thu May 16, 2024 7:32 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Pregnant from fingering and taking Plan B?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 195
Re: Pregnant from fingering and taking Plan B?
Hi Brian,
I’m really glad to hear that! Too, if it helps for the future, we have a resource here that goes through all different sexual activities and the associated risks.
Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
I’m really glad to hear that! Too, if it helps for the future, we have a resource here that goes through all different sexual activities and the associated risks.
Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
- Thu May 16, 2024 7:09 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
- Replies: 8
- Views: 302
Re: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
Hi AQ! No problem at all, I’m glad we can help! I’ll let Heather respond to their part when they’re in next too. :) The question of “what am I seeking by telling them this” can be more of an organizing question for yourself if you find it helpful, but it’s definitely not mandatory. I think it can be...
- Thu May 16, 2024 6:39 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: i am really concerned
- Replies: 1
- Views: 86
Re: i am really concerned
Hi there Ramiroflores, and welcome to the boards! A negative pregnancy test, taken in line with the test directions, lets you know that you’re not pregnant. So, right now, there is no pregnancy to manage. However, I hear you that you still feel worried. We have a great resource here for situations j...
- Wed May 15, 2024 7:12 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Pregnant from fingering and taking Plan B?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 195
Re: Pregnant from fingering and taking Plan B?
Hi there Brian, As Sam said, there is no risk of pregnancy here. We can’t speculate on what would happen “despite the odds,” and I do think that sort of speculation is an anxiety-inducing process and not productive when we can look clearly at the facts: indirect contact with pre-cum does not pose a ...
- Wed May 15, 2024 7:00 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
- Replies: 8
- Views: 302
Re: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
Hi AQ, Absolutely! So, I hear you when some friend groups maybe just don’t hug that much — my friend group in high school was not so huggy, and looking back, I think maybe we just didn’t have a way of normalizing hugging, if that makes sense (we didn’t really hug our parents either, interestingly.) ...
- Tue May 14, 2024 7:04 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I accept my unusual preferences?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 507
Re: How do I accept my unusual preferences?
Hi Jay27, Sometimes, within LGBTQ+ organizations at certain colleges, they may have specific lesbian-centered events as part of their programming (or if they don’t, maybe they could start some!) — does it sound doable to look into those organizations and see if they have some more sapphic-centered s...
- Tue May 14, 2024 6:57 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
- Replies: 8
- Views: 302
Re: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
Hi there AQ, and welcome back :) I’m so glad to hear the good news, this is a really exciting development! I also hear you about missing them between dates, especially with missing a physical component. I know this may sound a bit simplified or obvious, but being your own source of enjoyable physica...
- Mon May 13, 2024 11:12 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I accept my unusual preferences?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 507
Re: How do I accept my unusual preferences?
Hi Jay27! There’s some location-specific lesbian sober meetup groups on social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook if you feel comfortable with that! Also, speaking from personal experience, I’ve noticed a lot of success with finding lesbian sober community in different cities in the US by j...
- Fri May 10, 2024 8:56 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 21
- Views: 695
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Also, I definitely hear you about feeling like you need to figure things out before experimenting — but if I can reassure you, there’s nothing wrong with pursuing intimacy with people while you figure out yourself — as long as you have a clear sense of your boundaries, expectations, and desires, and...
- Fri May 10, 2024 8:49 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 21
- Views: 695
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Hi Trixieandtoast, I hear you that these conversations with him have started to feel frustrating, and I know that can be a hard thing to feel too — especially when we just want to figure out what’s going on. However, because you’re in a living situation with this person , if a potential conversation...
- Fri May 10, 2024 6:26 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Safely Accessing a Sex Toy as a Minor
- Replies: 5
- Views: 441
Re: Safely Accessing a Sex Toy as a Minor
Hey there CasWasHere, While we cannot recommend any sex toy stores to minors as they are adult sites, we can definitely talk about how to go forward here with finding toys in a way that’s discreet given your guardian’s thoughts about things like intimacy and romance. First, if you do end up making a...
- Thu May 09, 2024 8:25 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
- Replies: 7
- Views: 393
Re: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
Ah, I definitely hear you that it can be hard to relax while masturbating when it’s hard to find privacy at home! I was just about to say, making sure you’re relaxed and aroused before masturbating can go a long way to make masturbating more pleasurable, but that can definitely be hard to do when yo...
- Thu May 09, 2024 7:10 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
- Replies: 7
- Views: 393
Re: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
Hi there Azulin, So, there is a certain familiarity we have with our own bodies, where when we touch ourselves, we’re expecting it, so it registers in our brain as non-surprising. Touches that come from someone else, especially on accident or when we’re not expecting it, can be a bit more surprising...
- Thu May 09, 2024 6:50 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 21
- Views: 695
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Hi Trixieandtoast! First, I want to reassure you that there’s no “best timeline” for working through communicating with your friends or potential partners. Communicating with other people is one of those tricky things where, because you can’t control what other people say, it often takes the form of...
Re: break up
Hi there Naurmi008, I hear you here, it can feel almost impossible to be alone sometimes after a breakup. It definitely helps to surround yourself with loving community now, but as Sam and you said, sometimes we have to be alone and sit with what we’re feeling, and cry or just feel sad! And that can...
- Wed May 08, 2024 7:12 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 21
- Views: 695
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Hi Trixieandtoast, and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that you haven’t had your gender affirmed during intimacy — this can feel really disheartening as one goes through a transition, or even figures out one’s identity, so I hear you that this is a sensitive feeling. Indeed, gender identity...
- Tue May 07, 2024 7:42 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: is there a name for this?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 127
Re: is there a name for this?
Hi Axolotlperson! I hear you when you say your gender has always felt kind of back-and-forth, but I want to reassure you that feeling changes in how you feel about your gender identity is a normal process, and indeed, gender identity is often something that expands, evolves, and can change over time...
- Tue May 07, 2024 7:18 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: my vagina is really, really tight and I dont understand how anything beyond a popsicle stick could fit in there
- Replies: 1
- Views: 608
Re: my vagina is really, really tight and I dont understand how anything beyond a popsicle stick could fit in there
Hi there Shoelaces99, No need to apologize :) I appreciate your zest for figuring out what’s going on, and I hear you that these things can be confusing and overwhelming sometimes! Too, it’s totally okay to experience big emotions while you’re getting to know your sexual anatomy. All that to say, no...
- Sat May 04, 2024 7:02 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: dulled sensation
- Replies: 1
- Views: 224
Re: dulled sensation
Hi there Axolotlperson, I’m sorry to hear that your g-spot is feeling different than it used to — I know it can be really frustrating when things don’t feel the way they did before, especially when it felt so good! So, there’s a few reasons why this can happen, but I first want to reassure you that ...
- Wed May 01, 2024 9:25 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Questions about chances of pregnancy
- Replies: 4
- Views: 446
Re: Questions about chances of pregnancy
Yes, you are correct. Since, in this case, there was no contact with ejaculate and the vulva or vagina, there’s no risk of pregnancy. Hope this helps!
- Wed May 01, 2024 8:37 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Don't feel anything when masturbating
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1038
Re: Don't feel anything when masturbating
Hi there Reidobviouslyy, and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that you’re not feeling much during masturbation — this can be frustrating to experience but I do have a few things I can recommend. When you say you can’t find your clitoris, have you tried to find it with your fingers only, or h...
- Wed May 01, 2024 7:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact
- Replies: 11
- Views: 3332
Re: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact
Hi AlwaysLearning, We’re glad we can help! You are correct that there is no risk to pregnancy here, as you did not ejaculate onto her genitals. I hear your concern about semen that may have washed downward, but as Sam said, even if it did manage to wash down there, this would be indirect contact at ...
- Wed May 01, 2024 7:35 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: beginner sexual stuff
- Replies: 3
- Views: 409
Re: beginner sexual stuff
Hi there Ri, and welcome to the boards :) I’m glad to hear that you feel comfortable with your boyfriend, especially when experiencing new sensations and reactions! Tears falling during sexual activity is something that can happen for many different reasons, and you are definitely not alone here. So...
- Wed May 01, 2024 6:36 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Questions about chances of pregnancy
- Replies: 4
- Views: 446
Re: Questions about chances of pregnancy
Hi there Mayreilly, and welcome to the boards! What you are describing sounds like pre-ejaculate, or some mixture of pre-ejaculate and the lubricate in the condom (if you were using a lubricated condom). As you said the condom didn’t break, you can assume that the pre-ejaculate was contained within ...