I've struggled with hypersexuality a lot, over the years. It has very little to do with actual libido (it relates more to compulsions and intrusive thoughts) although libido can make it worse. I dislike the feelings that come with it, and really don't want to experience it more than I have to. I jus...

Ahhhh you folks are great, thanks a ton!!!

I uh, intend on keeping the name I've used, on this site, and would prefer to not be affiliated with it directly. If possible, anyway, I would much prefer "Bowler" as my username. Thank you in advance.

I don't feel safe there. Harassment/generally unwelcome. Apologies.

Fair enough, that last comment offered some valuable perspective to it. I guess I just feel like "Jacking off" so to speak, has always seemed like a rather boring experience? And all the information I see online about making it interesting just wouldn't apply post bottom surgery. Is there ...

As a trans person pre surgery, masturbation is already kind of meh, I enjoy it, but only to get off. There's not really anything fundamentally fulfilling about it. Bottom surgery seems to offer a more emotionally fulfilling (AKA less dysphoric experience), but it looks to be incredibly mundane and u...

This is more of a general question, but I'm curious. There's not really a g-spot there, to my knowledge, no parts or junk there either, I can imagine it being fun, but the sexual pleasure gained eludes me. I'm just interested, thanks.

Yeah, that's helpful, thank you!

Ok! thank you. It's still a bit tender, but a friend said something that sort of worried me, something about breaking my hymen? "popping the cherry", as they put it? Like. A day or two ago I gave it another shot because the pain went down, which ended in me bleeding a tad. The next day a b...

Hey! I recently found a friend who got me into ERP, and we've had a lot of fun with it. Though I've been really frequent with the physical aspects of it, and uh. I think I'm just. Really sore. I used to think "fuck you raw" was just a phrase, but now I sort of wonder if it's a real thing, ...

I have actually been thinking about seeing a sex therapist for a while, haha. It's not of access to me, no, but in the future it may be, and that's something I'm interested in looking at. Thanks for telling me that it's worth a shot though.

I guess so. thank you.

I just don't like the feelings to begin with. I don't want to have to sit there helplessly for them to go away, I'm tired of just squirming around waiting for it to leave, I want to do something to fix it.

However long the libido itself lasts. The second it's not something I actively really 'deal' with, it's not something that really bothers me deeply.

I feel stressed out and antsy, mostly. Some panic too on occasion.

Sexual attraction for me, just always feels inopportune. There's never a "convenient time", because I simply don't want there to be a time for it at all. I'd much rather learn about sex and the social ramifications it has than actually like, masturbate. One of those is just more interestin...

Thank you for the advice and link, both are helpful. Sexual attraction to me, is just, drab? It's a distraction to the things I find important. I like to think a lot, and being forced to think about whatever NSFW crap my brain throws at me is just so inconvenient. Being titillated during a test as I...

I don't really enjoy feelings of sexual attraction, I don't really enjoy libido. It's burdensome. I understand that sometimes you need to do things for self care, it's not about pleasure it's about doing what your body needs to run it's best, but.. there's gotta be a quicker way of getting it over w...

Thanks, I'll look into it and give that a shot.

I just lie on my back, generally speaking.
I'm very ignorant as to a lot of this, so I'm not sure about alternative positions. Are there alternative means that you suggest?

When it comes down to it, I think the motion and position that masturbation is is what gives me the discomfort.

I've been enjoying sub kink erotica, as of late. (Strange to see it laid out in a sentence like that..) I also guess I'm unsure about a traditional masculine identity? I dunno. I don't really want to be viewed as a man, if that makes sense. Masculinity is something I want to decide or myself, not ac...

Primarily masturbation, although I'm open to exploring through other ways.

Hello, New to the website, hope all is well. I'm a 17 year old AFAB transgender person, and I'm unsure how to explore sexuality it, taking my gender into consideration. I'd love to learn and explore who I am, but it feels as though everything is gendered a certain way, and working with what I have c...