Hi Liore, I'm glad the resource provided was so helpful to you and allowed you to do some self reflection. Break ups are very disrupting and can raise a lot of negative feelings and self doubt, but through caring for yourself healing is possible. When you see him in a few days will it be a social en...

Hi Lyle Lanley, I want to start by saying I understand your feelings and I do not want to invalidate them at all. It is normal to feel strong emotions about gendered violence, gendered abuse, and the way patriarchy hurts people especially when we have experienced it ourselves. However when it starts...

Hi Ms. Candy! Do you have any mutual friends? Mutual friends can be a great way to organize something in a group so you can get to know each other. Maybe the male friend you spoke about in your first post? Like Sam said something casual and low stakes is always good for a first hang, like getting so...

Hi Amazingstar344, welcome to the boards! To start, it is totally normal to experience varied amounts of arousal after something like sexual trauma. There is nothing wrong with you, it is just your body processing how to feel safe again after the violation of consent and safety. I am very sorry this...

Hi Whispermae, I am so sorry you have been dealing with this. It is so difficult when we feel like we don't know how or are unable to set these boundaries, but you deserve to have touch and interaction that is pleasurable, safe, and consensual. We are here to discuss ways to keep you safe in future ...

Hi CaswasHere, Many things can effect libido and sexual response, one being our mental health. Changes such as increased feelings of anxiety or depression can affect other things such as our sleep and eating patterns, all of which can have effects on our bodies. When these changes happen it can be v...

Hi Brendie, So if there was a condom failure but no ejaculation, the risk for pregnancy is low but not zero. Is this person you had sex with on any type of birth control? If she is not it is up to her what her next steps are, but if she wants chance of pregnancy as low as possible emergency contrace...

Hi -Carson-, Dealing with crushes and feelings can be stressful, but it sounds like you have put a lot of thought into this situation. One intimidating thing about discussing feelings for another person is we never know how another person feels for us unless we openly communicate it to them. One thi...

Hi CashWasHere, I am so sorry you are experiencing this! Period cramps are the worst. If you are experiencing an increased level on pain during your period very suddenly, I would advise you seek medical advice. As well if you period cramps are not responding to your usual dose of pain medication and...

Hi Himmingbirdd, For anal masturbation a couple things to keep in mind are first making sure your hands are clean and your fingernails are cut down short, this is for safety but also so that the insertion is comfortable as possible. Another factor that can be very useful is introducing lubricant. Lu...

Dear MistahCFS, You are correct, as long as both parties are having pleasurable and consensual sex it does not matter how they choose to verbally express their pleasure. These expressions will sound different for everyone and there is no one right or wrong way to express pleasure or enjoy these expr...

Hi Chocolate Moose,

Those commercials are often for the different amounts of flow during a persons period, which can be heavier or lighter. When someone has a higher flow, that means more blood and sometimes they prefer a larger or more absorptive tampon. Let us know if you have any other questions.

Hi Trvllver, It seems as though this has been very stressful for you. Would you say you experience genera anxiety or is this something you feel especially anxious or worried about often? One source I can recommend to start with is https://www.scarleteen.com/about/pregnancy-scare-resources. There are...

Hi Shimotsuki, I am glad you found something so pleasurable to explore in your sexuality, as well as a partner that is open and respectful while exploring this with you. I just want to reiterate that just because something is out of the "normal" during sex, doesn't make the sex or the plea...

Hi Felipe, It seems like the thread before on here did not help ease your worries about penis size? I will reiterate to you that penis size is something that hinges on the myth of the type of macho-masculine man every person who is attracted to men is desired to. This is a myth because masculinity, ...

Hi Archanana, Thank you for that context. I can add a couple sources here that you can take a look at and see if anything there resonates? One that I think would be helpful to you is https://www.scarleteen.com/read/sex-sexuality/sexual-response-orgasm-users-guide. It goes through the basics of how d...

Hi Fullcloser, Good for you for taking the time to reflect on ways you can safely express your sexuality. When thinking about things you want to try experimenting with, safety is the first priority. Anything to do with toys or things interacting with your body or genitals you want to make sure you a...

Hi kirikirikiri, Firstly one frustrating thing about sexual response and orgasm is the more stress and pressure we put on ourselves to reach orgasm by ourselves or with a partner, the more difficult it is to stay relaxed enough to reach orgasm. This source can talk a little bit more about the detail...

Hi Archanana, Intercourse involving insertion is something that is usually much more pleasurable and physically comfortable when both parties are comfortable, relaxed, and aroused. Is masturbation or arousal something you have ever experienced or are interested in experiencing? We can discuss this f...

Hi Kittylemon0, As others were touching on fantasies can be a way for us to explore our sexuality and understand ourselves, but do not have to be something that will happen or something that we want to happen. If you have a concern that you would not be able to hold on to boundaries set to keep your...

Naurmi008, Sperm cells are very delicate and need very particular conditions in order to survive. Anything that is outside of the conditions of the body, such as temperature, causes the sperm cells to die. I can include this source that touches on this topic further: https://www.scarleteen.com/about...

Hi Mothical2849, Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. Working through how our upbringings and society has shaped us can feel daunting, but it is not impossible. From what I am reading here in your post it seems as though you possibly may be holding on to some negative messaging about sex ...

Hi Demigirl09, Touching on what Sam was discussing, do you think you would be able to open the conversation with your mother about the boundaries you both are comfortable with during these talks? This may be helpful so that these talks are the most fulfilling for both parties, and hopefully can redu...

Hi Jay27, Good for you for practicing safer sex with your partner and planning on how you will set boundaries with future partners. Every individual is different and it will be most important to be upfront about your expectations for safer sex and barriers. In reality, this may not be something ever...

Hi Lyle Lanley, That sounds like a good idea to book a gynecology appointment. Unfortunately in this forum, it is difficult for me to understand the anatomy you are describing to me (as well as we do not/can not diagnose in this online setting), so it would be best to take this issue to the medical ...