Hi there, It’s me again. Since writing the last post, I have had crisis after crisis. 2 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were at the point of break up, as to be honest, I am not really enjoying sex if I am not experiencing an orgasm. I need the vibrator to experience an orgasm. Lately, even the vibrato...

I’m sorry I know I’m going round and round in circles and I don’t really know what I’m expecting to hear. But I have notions in my head as to what sex “should” feel like, I.e really wanting to touch the other person and be touched, getting caught up in the moment, high motivation to do it regularly

Thanks so much for the comforting reply Mo. I honestly think it is because I do think the orgasms are quite mechanical, I have read a lot about this. People who have no experience masturbating get a vibrator and are able to orgasm within minutes and then from overuse, they realise it stops working a...

Sorry, I am getting confused with the terms. When I mean my worries with my sexuality, I do actually mean my sexual orientation. This may be a very stupid question but Could the fact that I am dependent on vibrators with a male partner mask the fact that I actually prefer women (due to sexual fantas...

Hi Sam, sorry, I didn’t see your response whilst I was drafting the other one. I have taken a fair amount of time and have been in therapy. I suppose I know I’m not straight for sure and I accept this. I suppose with being in a relationship comes even more pressure to absolutely KNOW FOR SURE I am o...

I loved your response, thank you. Thanks as well for such a swift response. I have anxiety as well so of course my brain comes up with all these points that I may not have said or aren’t clear. I guess my worry is always that I basically feel nothing when I don’t have a vibrator yet I can reach orga...

Bear with me, this will be long. I have been confused about my sexuality since I was about 19 and started experimenting sexually with men. So nearly 10 years! My first time with a guy, I was dating for about 2 months and the experience felt very flat and boring. Since then I have dated lots of diffe...