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by Carly
Sat Oct 23, 2021 8:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Where is my withdrawal bleed?
Replies: 4
Views: 114

Re: Where is my withdrawal bleed?

Hey Juliaho90 -- I would say it is a little early to test if you're concerned specifically about sex you had in October. At-home pregnancy tests are designed to detect high levels of human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) in urine. hCG is a hormone that occurs naturally in bodies of people who can get p...
by Carly
Sat Oct 23, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?
Replies: 3
Views: 182

Re: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?

No problem, happy to help!
by Carly
Mon Oct 18, 2021 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal fingering
Replies: 1
Views: 120

Re: Anal fingering

Hey Fluffy_elephant -- it's common for some to experience light bleeding (a few drops, lighter in color) after anal penetration, and this is due to the fact that anal issue is a little more sensitive and fingernails or friction can irritate it. Can you be a little more specific about what you mean b...
by Carly
Mon Oct 18, 2021 7:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Unhealthy Infatuation?
Replies: 7
Views: 137

Re: Unhealthy Infatuation?

So glad to hear that helped, idkanymore. I feel comfortable sharing with you that I had a few bouts with what you're feeling when I was high school myself. I totally get what you're saying with "it's always been a problem that I've sort of enjoyed." You might know what the relationship is ...
by Carly
Mon Oct 18, 2021 7:04 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?
Replies: 3
Views: 182

Re: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?

Hi belled -- this sounds like the main culprit impacting your ability to sleep last night was having a lot of caffeine and sugar too close to bedtime, which is a normal reaction to those kinds of substances. As for caffeine and sugar making you horny specifically, that's a bit of a toss up. A lot of...
by Carly
Sun Oct 17, 2021 8:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Unhealthy Infatuation?
Replies: 7
Views: 137

Re: Unhealthy Infatuation?

Hey idkanymore -- I think it's really cool that you're in touch with yourself enough to identify this situation as something that will be hard for you to navigate. Up top I wanted to just acknowledge that, everything else about the situation aside, it just down-right sucks to have a crush you can't ...
by Carly
Sun Oct 17, 2021 6:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Rushing masturbation
Replies: 4
Views: 143

Re: Rushing masturbation

Thanks for explaining what you meant by it making you feel bad, Arasyil. I don't think it sounds silly! You're right - masturbation is totally a form of self-care and you definitely deserve to feel special. What you said reminds me of the Scarleteen article How to Date Yourself . I'm glad assuring y...
by Carly
Sat Oct 16, 2021 8:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Rushing masturbation
Replies: 4
Views: 143

Re: Rushing masturbation

Hey Arasyil -- I'm sorry to hear that you haven't been able to enjoy masturbating as much. Having to make time to masturbate and wash normally all in the same short shower sounds like a difficult situation. Why does it make you feel bad about yourself? To me, it sounds like you're doing the best you...
by Carly
Sat Oct 16, 2021 7:33 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Did I squirt?
Replies: 3
Views: 175

Re: Did I squirt?

Hey Elias -- because we're not able to see or smell for ourselves, I'm not sure if we'd know for sure if you peed or not. But! I'd say the general rule of thumb is that if it was pee it would smell like pee, and there would likely be a lot of it that came out at once as it does when you pee intentio...
by Carly
Tue Oct 05, 2021 11:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 15
Views: 549

Re: Imbalance in friendships

Hey Raffles -- I'm coming in a little late to this conversation, but I just wanted to chime in and say that nothing you've said here sounds terrible. I don't you're giving up on the friendship at all, in fact I think it shows how much you do care about this friend because you're being very thoughtfu...
by Carly
Tue Oct 05, 2021 11:21 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 426

Re: Masturbation troubles

Hi hello_world -- do you want to say more about your anxiety or your privacy problems? It sounds like this has pretty large impact on you right now.
by Carly
Tue Oct 05, 2021 10:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation questions
Replies: 13
Views: 470

Re: Masturbation questions

Hey Otter8 -- welcome to Scarleteen! I don't think you need to be concerned about how much you're masturbating right now. There really isn't such a thing as a "normal" amount of masturbation, as long as you aren't hurting yourself and it isn't getting in the way of things you need to do or...
by Carly
Sun Oct 03, 2021 12:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Shocked and surprised yet comfortable
Replies: 1
Views: 260

Re: Shocked and surprised yet comfortable

Hey Korey -- we learn so much about ourselves by leaving our comfort zones, but I think it's also important to honor your boundaries, even if you're not totally sure what they are yet. It sounds like what happened was consensual, but did you want to do it? It might be helpful to think about those as...
by Carly
Sun Oct 03, 2021 11:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period questions t_t
Replies: 9
Views: 289

Re: period questions t_t

Hey lycheefan -- Good question! What is considered "late" can be a little different per person because how long a menstrual cycle is can differ. Generally speaking, a period that hasn't come at least five days after it was expected is considered late. A missed period is a period that doesn...
by Carly
Sun Sep 26, 2021 9:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Too busy to take care of myself sexually
Replies: 4
Views: 424

Re: Too busy to take care of myself sexually

Hi belled -- I'm glad to hear that college is off to a good start for you. I also have ADHD, and I'm glad you're finding ways to cope and work well. I'm comfortable sharing with you that I'm graduate student, and I also don't have a lot of free time for myself. I feel a lot of pressure to use it str...
by Carly
Sun Sep 26, 2021 9:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 553

Re: Penis Size

Hi dq15 -- I'm so sorry you're feeling like this right now. Puberty is a confusing and stressful time - particularly because we may know what's "supposed to" happen during this period and what it's "supposed to" be like, and if that isn't what's happening it can feel like there's...
by Carly
Fri Aug 20, 2021 4:05 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Are there different ways to masturbate?
Replies: 13
Views: 1143

Re: Are there different ways to masturbate?

Hey Hunter14 -- there are many different ways to masturbate, it's all about finding what works and feels best for you. Because of that, sometimes it can be difficult to recommend different masturbation techniques that feel good for everyone. Our resource Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation goes o...
by Carly
Fri Aug 20, 2021 2:00 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Masturbating does not feel good at all??
Replies: 15
Views: 1115

Re: Masturbating does not feel good at all??

Hey venus -- is that the only thing that is different between these two scenarios? Does your boyfriend do something differently than how you would do it if you were by yourself?
by Carly
Fri Aug 20, 2021 1:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Modern Love
Replies: 1
Views: 167

Re: Modern Love

Hey girlplayer34 -- this sounds extremely frustrating, I'm sorry you're feeling this way right now. I think a lot of people share the same sentiment; I know I did when I was on dating apps. Especially in 2020, before people were vaccinated. Can you see any benefits to meeting people on apps? One thi...
by Carly
Mon Aug 16, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Infected... Lumps? In labia
Replies: 1
Views: 196

Re: Infected... Lumps? In labia

Hey AmnesicSorcerer -- So glad to hear that you're feeling affirmed in what we have to offer content-wise! It means a lot to us to hear that. <3 A limitation we have is that we do no have a doctor on staff or amongst our volunteers; we would be unable to diagnose this condition for you. I'm aware of...
by Carly
Wed Aug 11, 2021 8:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Uncomfortable stomach cramps after masturbation (afab)
Replies: 3
Views: 948

Re: Uncomfortable stomach cramps after masturbation (afab)

Hey Flo04 - welcome to Scarleteen! Sometimes AFAB folks get cramps after orgasm because during an orgasm muscles in the pelvis and pelvic floor contract involuntarily, as does the uterus. Continued contracting after orgasming could result in cramps for a little while afterward. Also, as you pointed ...
by Carly
Mon Aug 02, 2021 9:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal sex question
Replies: 5
Views: 1617

Re: Anal sex question

Hey Sunland05 -- I'm not sure if I have a better answer than other than it's likely money motivated. If there are people who want to see it, there are porn directors and producers who are willing to make it and porn actors willing to try it. Pretty similar to other hazardous jobs. Porn is a space wh...
by Carly
Mon Aug 02, 2021 8:21 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I had some guy grab me this morning
Replies: 6
Views: 1890

Re: I had some guy grab me this morning

Hey TNGirl -- I was about 25 when this specific incident happened, I'm 29 now. I was walking alone in my neighborhood, but I was on my way to meet friends so I was able to talk to someone about how I felt pretty much right away. There were also some witnesses on the street who asked if I was okay. I...
by Carly
Sat Jul 31, 2021 12:43 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I had some guy grab me this morning
Replies: 6
Views: 1890

Re: I had some guy grab me this morning

What kinds of things help you feel calm? It sounds like venting here is helping a little bit, but are there other things that help you ease tension or cheer you up? After the experience I mentioned I needed some extra self-care to recover emotionally. Here's a big list of examples and ideas if you'r...
by Carly
Sat Jul 31, 2021 11:17 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal sex question
Replies: 5
Views: 1617

Re: Anal sex question

Hey Sunland05 -- Heather already answered your question about bacteria and the safety of switching between an anus and a vagina, but I wanted to offer information about porn in general that I think might be also helpful going forward. It's okay to watch porn and enjoy it, but the most important to t...

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