Hey campyglitterlex -- sounds like there's still a lot on your mind, and we're happy to help talk through whatever you need us for. Being yourself is hard, but I think trying to hide who you really hard and what you really feel is almost harder sometimes. I think a lot of people you know are also ha...

Hey Juliaho90 -- I would say it is a little early to test if you're concerned specifically about sex you had in October. At-home pregnancy tests are designed to detect high levels of human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) in urine. hCG is a hormone that occurs naturally in bodies of people who can get p...

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Hey Fluffy_elephant -- it's common for some to experience light bleeding (a few drops, lighter in color) after anal penetration, and this is due to the fact that anal issue is a little more sensitive and fingernails or friction can irritate it. Can you be a little more specific about what you mean b...

So glad to hear that helped, idkanymore. I feel comfortable sharing with you that I had a few bouts with what you're feeling when I was high school myself. I totally get what you're saying with "it's always been a problem that I've sort of enjoyed." You might know what the relationship is ...

Hi belled -- this sounds like the main culprit impacting your ability to sleep last night was having a lot of caffeine and sugar too close to bedtime, which is a normal reaction to those kinds of substances. As for caffeine and sugar making you horny specifically, that's a bit of a toss up. A lot of...

Hey idkanymore -- I think it's really cool that you're in touch with yourself enough to identify this situation as something that will be hard for you to navigate. Up top I wanted to just acknowledge that, everything else about the situation aside, it just down-right sucks to have a crush you can't ...

Thanks for explaining what you meant by it making you feel bad, Arasyil. I don't think it sounds silly! You're right - masturbation is totally a form of self-care and you definitely deserve to feel special. What you said reminds me of the Scarleteen article How to Date Yourself . I'm glad assuring y...

Hey Arasyil -- I'm sorry to hear that you haven't been able to enjoy masturbating as much. Having to make time to masturbate and wash normally all in the same short shower sounds like a difficult situation. Why does it make you feel bad about yourself? To me, it sounds like you're doing the best you...

Hey Elias -- because we're not able to see or smell for ourselves, I'm not sure if we'd know for sure if you peed or not. But! I'd say the general rule of thumb is that if it was pee it would smell like pee, and there would likely be a lot of it that came out at once as it does when you pee intentio...

Hey Raffles -- I'm coming in a little late to this conversation, but I just wanted to chime in and say that nothing you've said here sounds terrible. I don't you're giving up on the friendship at all, in fact I think it shows how much you do care about this friend because you're being very thoughtfu...

Hi hello_world -- do you want to say more about your anxiety or your privacy problems? It sounds like this has pretty large impact on you right now.

Hey Otter8 -- welcome to Scarleteen! I don't think you need to be concerned about how much you're masturbating right now. There really isn't such a thing as a "normal" amount of masturbation, as long as you aren't hurting yourself and it isn't getting in the way of things you need to do or...

Hey Korey -- we learn so much about ourselves by leaving our comfort zones, but I think it's also important to honor your boundaries, even if you're not totally sure what they are yet. It sounds like what happened was consensual, but did you want to do it? It might be helpful to think about those as...

Hey lycheefan -- Good question! What is considered "late" can be a little different per person because how long a menstrual cycle is can differ. Generally speaking, a period that hasn't come at least five days after it was expected is considered late. A missed period is a period that doesn...

Hi belled -- I'm glad to hear that college is off to a good start for you. I also have ADHD, and I'm glad you're finding ways to cope and work well. I'm comfortable sharing with you that I'm graduate student, and I also don't have a lot of free time for myself. I feel a lot of pressure to use it str...

Hi dq15 -- I'm so sorry you're feeling like this right now. Puberty is a confusing and stressful time - particularly because we may know what's "supposed to" happen during this period and what it's "supposed to" be like, and if that isn't what's happening it can feel like there's...

Hey Hunter14 -- there are many different ways to masturbate, it's all about finding what works and feels best for you. Because of that, sometimes it can be difficult to recommend different masturbation techniques that feel good for everyone. Our resource Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation goes o...

Hey venus -- is that the only thing that is different between these two scenarios? Does your boyfriend do something differently than how you would do it if you were by yourself?

Hey girlplayer34 -- this sounds extremely frustrating, I'm sorry you're feeling this way right now. I think a lot of people share the same sentiment; I know I did when I was on dating apps. Especially in 2020, before people were vaccinated. Can you see any benefits to meeting people on apps? One thi...

Hey AmnesicSorcerer -- So glad to hear that you're feeling affirmed in what we have to offer content-wise! It means a lot to us to hear that. <3 A limitation we have is that we do no have a doctor on staff or amongst our volunteers; we would be unable to diagnose this condition for you. I'm aware of...

Hey Flo04 - welcome to Scarleteen! Sometimes AFAB folks get cramps after orgasm because during an orgasm muscles in the pelvis and pelvic floor contract involuntarily, as does the uterus. Continued contracting after orgasming could result in cramps for a little while afterward. Also, as you pointed ...

Hey Sunland05 -- I'm not sure if I have a better answer than other than it's likely money motivated. If there are people who want to see it, there are porn directors and producers who are willing to make it and porn actors willing to try it. Pretty similar to other hazardous jobs. Porn is a space wh...

Hey TNGirl -- I was about 25 when this specific incident happened, I'm 29 now. I was walking alone in my neighborhood, but I was on my way to meet friends so I was able to talk to someone about how I felt pretty much right away. There were also some witnesses on the street who asked if I was okay. I...

What kinds of things help you feel calm? It sounds like venting here is helping a little bit, but are there other things that help you ease tension or cheer you up? After the experience I mentioned I needed some extra self-care to recover emotionally. Here's a big list of examples and ideas if you'r...