Hey Kjezza123 -- it's possible to experience an orgasm without ejaculating, whether its from prostate stimulation or something else. In the case you're asking about does "not being able to ejaculate" mean one is physically not able to at all or not able to yet?

As for what options exist it's really whatever feels good for you, truly! There is no one definition or guide for "breast play" and what people find pleasurable varies. Lightly squeezing your breasts is definitely a place to start. In fact, I recommend that you anything you try you first t...

Hi again -- like I said, I think it's always a good idea to explore new sensations especially if what you normally do isn't doing it for you. I'm not sure what will work for you, but if you feel turned on and excited by the changes in your body I say go for it. When you say "info on it" - ...

Hey Rubix -- I think it's always a good idea to explore new sensations, especially if you're having the experiences you're having. Sometimes the fact that you're having a difficult time can make it harder to orgasm because you're aware of your frustration or that you're bored. There are so many ways...

Hey Aether66 -- this may sound a little simple, but perhaps you both enjoyed being together so much that masturbating is less exciting and causing some difficulty. Does that resonate with you at all? To be clear, when you say you can't touch yourselves -- do you mean masturbate to orgasm, or are you...

Hey owouwu -- there is no "normal" way to masturbate, even though it may feel like there is sometimes because of what we hear from others or see in media. There are truly so many ways, and all it comes down to what feels good on an individual basis. If you are genuinely interested in mastu...

Hey aven1861 -- quite simply, I can't think of a better reason than something feeling right for you. :D Even if you don't mind your birth name, the only thing that matters here is how you feel when you're called one name over the other. Here's a resource we have about social transitioning ; it also ...

Hey Sky -- I'm not going to approve your most recent posts right now, but I can do my best to respond to everything you've written. I maintain what I've said before - I think you know more about yourself and what you want than you think you do, or perhaps are able to admit. And if you don't want tha...

Hey Brianna22 - up top I wanted to say there's no reason to feel stupid, in the heat of the moment this is an easy thing to forget about. You're correct, anal to vaginal intercourse without barrier protection can transmit fecal matter and bacteria from the rectum into the vaginal canal and that can ...

hey iloveeveryone -- my answer is simple but true: you simply cannot make everyone happy. It is especially hard to stick with your convictions when you know that you will disappoint people. At the end of the day, how you feel is the most important... even though it can be hard to guide yourself on t...

Hey Acacia_04 -- welcome to Scarleteen. I feel comfortable sharing with you that I have had a very similar experience coping and healing from my own childhood sexual abuse that went on for years. Because I never really felt uninterested in sex, it made me question if what happened was all that bad i...

Thanks for clarifying, waterhyacinth. In that case, I also don't think getting tested for STIs and pregnancy (not sure if you're using birth control at the moment) would hurt. It doesn't sound like you're especially concerned, so I encourage you to keep this at medium-low priority while you primaril...

hey spottedowl -- I think there are definitely things you can do to make it less weird in class, but I think it's important to remember that it might not make it go away completely. The first thing I suggest is letting the teachers in your shared classes know that you would not like, if its possible...

Hi waterhyacinth -- I don't think it's too soon to split, it sounds like you've taken in a lot of resources about the situation and your gut reaction is telling you it's time to leave. I imagine this may feel impulsive, especially because you've been with him for a while, but consider how much you'v...

Hey sky -- it can feel embarrassing when we make mistakes, I'm sorry this made you feel so discouraged. Whenever I make a mistake like that, I try to remember that I'm surely not the only one who has ever messed it up. And sometimes it's not even our fault at all. Were you able to get information or...

Hey BeepBoop -- I'm sorry it's been feeling difficult recently. There have been times in my life where I felt the exact same way: I was just out of a relationship, I wanted to date and be intimate with other people, but I wasn't really attracted to anyone I knew or meeting anyone I wanted that with....

Hi thr0waway456 -- I'm sorry it's taking us so long to get back to you via email. There's a chance there's still an issue with it. I personally do not have access to the account so I'm unable to confirm we got your email or answer it there. I'm assuming because you emailed it you're uncomfortable ou...

Aw, thank you, Sky. I'm glad I can make you feel comfortable. :) Anyway, yes, I understand what you mean. I ask about it because you had asked if you could not want to be with men and still call yourself bi or queer; I think what I'm not fully following here is why you would be concerned about this ...

Hey sky -- sometimes it can feel like there's some pressure to have the right words to describe your sexuality as accurately as possible. There's nothing wrong with being on a quest for those words or labels that feel right, and finding them may be very validating. The words we have are not one-size...

Hey sky -- I'm really glad you decided to talk to your therapist about this. It sounds like you trust her, and even though you may feel a little weird describing how you feel, I think you'll be able to learn a lot about yourself from the situation. Whenever I have a therapy session coming up that ma...

Hey Lucy4 -- I'm glad that helped! When you talk about making a decision, what are you deciding between? Making an appointment and not making one? Just want to make sure I understand. If you want to weigh your options and hear more advice, let us know.

Hey transfemandgay -- there might be some therapy or counselling resources near you that offer sliding-scale services or may even have a program that provides it at no cost. Have you ever tried looking for those?

Hey sunsatellite -- I've got some good news and I've got some bad news. Bad news first: folks who are under 18 cannot legally purchase sex toys, and I'm pretty sure this might extend to using a parent's credit card to do so even if you're pretty sure your mom would be okay with the purchase generall...

Hey Lucy4 -- happy to give you some more information on this! Though I'm not a gynecologist myself, I can tell you that the reason routine pap smears and pelvic exams are generally recommended at 21 because they check for concerning physical issues and abnormal cells that are less common in those wh...

Hey Digdawg - I'm sorry you're so preoccupied by this right now, I imagine it's not any easier with your boyfriend going off to basic. For what it's worth, I think you can put some confidence in how diligent you and your boyfriend have been preventing pregnancy. Scarleteen's Pregnancy Panic Companio...