Hey dependantdragon -- I let Heather know you answered some of their questions. Because I don't know what resources they had in mind, I want to talk about what you said about your boyfriend and your frustration with your friend. I see a lot of connections here. First of all, I want to assure you tha...

Hey alwayssnape -- I've been in this situation a few times, both ends of it actually. I can see how this would feel especially bad too. Being dumped is one thing, but it being someone you had a really deep and quick connection with is a whole other thing especially if you haven't always been able to...

Hey again Rubie -- I'm wondering if it might be helpful to take a look at our Sexual Inventory Checklist. It might be good to, after this experience, revisit your boundaries and what you're willing or not willing to try. Just a thought!

Hey Raffles -- I just wanted to chime in and tell you I'm feeling a lot of the same feelings. 2022 was one of the hardest years of my life and I also had lot of plans for myself that simply did not happen. One thing I can relate to heavily is struggling to get on your feet with a career change. I gr...

Hey Rubie -- I want to first start by saying that this is a space for you. There's nothing wrong about posting this two days before Christmas, and it will not cause any problems for others here. Your thoughts and feelings are valid and in the right place. We're here to listen and support any way tha...

Hey Rubie -- I'm glad you're viewing this as a learning experience and taking some lessons about communication away from it. What are your thoughts about having sex and/or relationships at work? Have your opinions changed on that? If someone you know was in the same situation, what would you tell th...

Hey again crowcaw73 -- you're so right, this is just one of those things that is fixed best with talking about it and letting them know how you feel. In conversations like this, I always recommend using "I" statements like "I feel" and "I think" to make you are expressi...

Hey crowcaw73 -- I'm personally don't think it's a good idea to take medication without a diagnosis, especially if it's advising not to without a diagnosis specifically. Can you say a little more about the difficulty seeing a doctor? Also, I just want to confirm -- have you had any unusual discharge...

Hey Rubie -- do you want to talk about those mixed feelings you're having about not walking away? To be frank with you, the way you're describing this sexual encounter is making me wonder if you didn't actually want to engage in his fetish but agreed to it for another reason. Am I on to something he...

Hey Mantis -- welcome to the boards! What you're describing is one of the most common things users write in to us to talk about on the boards. Our bodies are all so different, so sometimes it can be hard to tell someone exactly what will help in cases like this. One trend I do notice though is that ...

Hey elemd11 -- I'm sorry no one was online when you added this to your thread. Is there something you want to talk about now? I'm not sure when you'll see this so I can't guarantee someone will be able to respond quickly. If you add your questions to your thread, someone will be able to get to them ...

Hey Diegosa -- welcome to the boards! Have you ever masturbated in any other way? All bodies are different, and it's definitely possible that this isn't the more pleasurable thing for yours.

Hey Rubie -- there could be a lot of reasons why he wants to keep the relationship between you two. One of them could be workplace policies and internal drama, which is something we suggested before. But! And this is a major but! I want to point out that you feel like this is a red flag. There's som...

Hey DDLC_18 -- welcome to the boards! It sounds like you and your girlfriend have a pretty solid line of communication about sex, both during and talking about things you're interested in. Based on what you said, I'm not thinking the issue is approaching the topic or communicating needs directly. I'...

Hey Rubie -- thanks for more context for your question. When you were going through orientation, did they talk about what the policies are for employee relationships at your workplace? Often employers have very specific rules about this and violating them could have serious consequences. When you sa...

Hey OddEggplant859 -- welcome to the boards! When there's a reoccurring problem in a relationship, it's important that both people understand what they're bringing to the situation. I think you did a very good job of identifying that on your end and you seem very clear about you'd like to change. To...

Hey Rubie -- welcome to the boards! Yep, you're in the right place even at 19. There's definitely a lot we can talk about here, but first I wanted to ask a little bit more information. How old is your coworker? If you don't know, how much would you guess? I also wanted to ask about the hints you've ...

Hey JuliaHo90 -- the time range you take your pill in is fine. If you don't take it at exactly the same time but still take it on the day you're supposed to your pills will not become ineffective. If you want to be as close as you can to "perfect-use" effectiveness, you'll want to try and ...

Hey again elemd11 -- you're not out of place, actually. Our services are for adolescents and young adults, and 16 is right in the appropriate age range. This also means you're in an appropriate age range for these kinds of worries, so there's no need to be embarrassed. I understand struggle to descr...

Hey elemd11 -- I'm checking in on your thread and I just wanted to say that I actually think you are very brave. You made an account on our site, you reached out about a sensitive problem you're facing, you tried to read some resources, and you're continuing to talk about it. This is what brave peop...

Hey Mop -- it's typical for mental health providers to have a specialty. Generally what this means is that this provider has specific experience or interest in treating certain kinds of cases, but it doesn't always mean it's the only kind of work they do. I do think it's a good idea to check in with...

Hey Juliapf -- welcome to the boards! So, about your pills... we can't guarantee that the pills haven't been damaged, but keep in mind that the appearance of birth control pill packs does tend to noticeably change if there's heat damage. So if the blister pack looks the same as usual, then odds are ...

Hey somerandomteen -- welcome to the boards! Typically we start folks with these kinds of questions with D.I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition , which has some ideas for improvising a masturbation sleeve like you're already doing. I'm wondering if a sock might be good option? Does anything in there seem...

Hey elemd11 -- welcome to the boards! What you're feeling is very common, even if it might not feel that way a lot. I think our resource Why Does Masturbation Feel Weird? will resonate a lot with you, as it's all about the awkwardness of exploring new territory with yourself. I also think Going Solo...

Hey 55 -- it's my understanding that what the nurse told you is more relevant to the first few days after injection. Also, keep in mind that a bang or bump is a lot different than a massage, with the latter being really focused on manipulating muscles and the former being a quick and usually unrepea...