Mo Ranyart

The good news is that there’s no secret to bringing up unconventional sex acts with a partner; the same basic communication skills that are needed to talk about any other kinds of sex are what’s needed here. The bad news is…well, that there’s no secret to it! The simple answer to your question is…

First off, it’s great that you’ve found a sexual orientation that you identify strongly with! Regardless of if and when you talk about this with anyone else, it’s an exciting and positive thing to understand and accept about yourself, so: congratulations! When contemplating coming out, remember that…

This is a great question, and it’s great that you’re asking it. Stopping these comments altogether might not be possible, but there are things you can say in response and ways you can help change the tone of the conversation. First off, I want to talk a little about why your friends may be…

Why is it that scenes of rape and other sexual violence in media can be so upsetting to some people and not others? Are there ways to be less impacted by these scenes, or avoid them altogether?

Every relationship is different, and when you’re polyamorous, that means that you may have several different relationships going on all at once. One issue to think about is the relationship structure that works for you, and how to make it work with your partners. Remember that this can be in a constant state of evolution, but communication is necessary for changes to take place.

The start of a relationship can feel very fluid — you may date several people while you get to know them, and might pick up, stop, shift and start relationships at various points. Sometimes you can find yourself in a situation where you aren’t entirely sure if you’re “officially” dating someone at all, but it sure feels like you might be. As a relationship starts to evolve into something more structured or long-term, you may want to have a deeper conversation about the form you want your relationship to take. For you, that may mean bringing up polyamory — or having your partner bring it up, in which case, this guide is for you too!

(Mostly) everything (okay, okay, not mostly everything, but a lot) you wanted to know about polyamory.

First off, I’m sorry to hear about your sexual assault. If it helps to hear this, having a strong fear of pregnancy after a sexual assault isn’t unusual, especially when someone is feeling shame over it or worrying that they caused or deserved it in some way. Pregnancy can feel like an inevitable…

Maggie’s question continued: I’m struggling with the fact that when I talk about being bisexual I mean that I could happily be in a committed relationship or desire to have sex with someone of any gender. I sometimes find that when people (as a way of trying to be supportive, which I am grateful for…

I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling insecure in your sexual relationship. It’s understandable that you’d feel a bit uncertain about your girlfriend’s enjoyment of sex since it sounds like you aren’t getting much, if any, honest feedback from her and are worried her responses during sex aren’t genuine…