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Unread postby rajaman » Fri Jul 13, 2018 9:09 am

can i masturbate daily? how i know how much can i do and how much i should not ?

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Re: hey

Unread postby Sam W » Fri Jul 13, 2018 9:22 am

Hi rajaman,

How much you do (or do not) masturbate is really up to you and what's comfortable for your body. As long as you aren't forgoing important life things in order to masturbate, frequent masturbation is not an issue. Does that make sense?

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Re: hey

Unread postby rajaman » Mon Jul 16, 2018 8:08 am

yes but i usually masturbates daily with porn when i got alone in my home,so be alone mostly feels like that its the right time to masturbate lol,and i turn on the porn and masturbates.

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Re: hey

Unread postby Sam W » Mon Jul 16, 2018 8:21 am

Is any part of that behavior causing you distress or worry? Or were you more concerned that masturbating almost every day might have negative effects?

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Re: hey

Unread postby rajaman » Mon Jul 16, 2018 9:40 am

nope no negative effects is but i stimulate myself via porn and then masturbates so that stimulation is not natural i think

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Re: hey

Unread postby Sam W » Mon Jul 16, 2018 9:54 am

It may help to know that people have used sexual media of one kind or another to help with arousal for centuries. You can read more about that here: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/polit ... xual_media . However, if using porn is causing you discomfort, you do have the option of removing it from your masturbation routine and trying other things to get aroused, such as fantasizing. Does that sound doable?

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Re: hey

Unread postby rajaman » Wed Jul 18, 2018 9:00 am

fantasizing ? it needs to think bit forcefully as i felt ):

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Re: hey

Unread postby al » Wed Jul 18, 2018 11:06 am

Hi rajaman,

Can you explain what you meant by that last reply?

In case you aren't familiar with the term, "fantasizing" just means thinking about people or situations that you find sexy or arousing. So rather than turning on porn and watching something happen that turns you on, you think about it instead. Is that an option for you?
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Re: hey

Unread postby rajaman » Fri Jul 20, 2018 9:18 am

i know what is fantasy,but i dont like to turn on me by just thinking

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Re: hey

Unread postby rajaman » Fri Jul 20, 2018 9:41 am

i m masturbating daily and i m feeling some tiredness or weakness,so is it any negative ?

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Re: hey

Unread postby Sam W » Fri Jul 20, 2018 10:07 am

Masturbation can make you tired after you do it, but if you're feeling tired and weak throughout the day that is likely being caused by something else. Really, isn't going to have any negative effects on your body unless you're doing it to a point of pain or exhaustion.

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Re: hey

Unread postby rajaman » Fri Jul 20, 2018 10:53 am

so daily masturbation isn't bad in any kind? i m usually masturbating once in a day.

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Re: hey

Unread postby Heather » Fri Jul 20, 2018 11:37 am

I feel like Sam has been super-clear about that in these answers already, so I'm going to go ahead and bring this thread to a close.
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