jerking off
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Skater25
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jerking off
Is it alright if I jerk off to pictures of girls I like from school
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Sam W
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Re: jerking off
Hi skater,
People use all sorts of things to mentally stimulate themselves when masturbating, so there's nothing off about this. As long as using the girls pictures does not cause you to treat them as objects, then there's nothing to be concerned about or ashamed of.
People use all sorts of things to mentally stimulate themselves when masturbating, so there's nothing off about this. As long as using the girls pictures does not cause you to treat them as objects, then there's nothing to be concerned about or ashamed of.
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sexpositivity94
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Re: jerking off
Hi!
20yr old cis (non-trans) girl here.
Yeah, its totally fine. I agree with Sam. What you do alone and in your own head should stay that way. Totally fine as long as it doesn't mix with your personal life. Treat them like you always do.
Just want to note: Its NOT fine if the pictures you use were taken/obtained without consent. This includes nude photos that were shared or not given explicitly to you, or photos that they were not aware were being taken.
Otherwise, go for it.
Happy Holidays!
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20yr old cis (non-trans) girl here.
Yeah, its totally fine. I agree with Sam. What you do alone and in your own head should stay that way. Totally fine as long as it doesn't mix with your personal life. Treat them like you always do.
Just want to note: Its NOT fine if the pictures you use were taken/obtained without consent. This includes nude photos that were shared or not given explicitly to you, or photos that they were not aware were being taken.
Otherwise, go for it.
Happy Holidays!
-G
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Re: jerking off
The only thing I'd add to all of what's already been said -- and I agree, getting turned on by looking at someone, or photos of them, isn't an issue you have to worry about -- is to give a think to how you might feel pursuing any of these folks you like after that.
Some people will still feel totally fine and comfy, others can feel like they then feel more socially awkward, and then have a hard time interacting with folks socially when they've made images of them part of their masturbation. But that, too, isn't a right/wrong issue, it's just about you, your preferences, and what you find does and doesn't work out for you.
Some people will still feel totally fine and comfy, others can feel like they then feel more socially awkward, and then have a hard time interacting with folks socially when they've made images of them part of their masturbation. But that, too, isn't a right/wrong issue, it's just about you, your preferences, and what you find does and doesn't work out for you.
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