I wanted to seek some guidance and insight on the extent of my relationship. I've been in a relationship with my wonderful girlfriend for a little over 2 years, part of those two years (almost 1 year) has been done via long distance. Through some events in the beginning and some cycles of up and down since the 8/9 month mark, there has been losses of trust on my part and inconsistencies. As of late, we argue sometimes when it comes to things about what I say or how I react based on my tone which sometimes she takes offense to. Recently, since coming back from visiting her, I had said something that I didn't mean as serious but didn't indicate it, and didn't reconcile completely. Then, as she was explaining her feelings to me in addition to other things happening this week, I had made her upset due to skipping over the first two things explained and going to the last one to address. There have been other times where she feels guilt in which if she hadn't explained to me what she was feeling in the past, then we wouldn't be in a point where I had cut ties with some people because I felt she was being viewed improperly. I find myself having difficulty really understanding and figuring out what to do in those times she is emotionally down, often times I have trouble really connecting and thinking of past events that it makes me wonder if it is still healthy to continue..and I go back and think to myself that this is also something I don't want to let go of..
I know it is not entirely clear for the sake of privacy, but I just wanted to get some kind of starting insight.