What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?

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What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?

Unread post by Sam W »

It's interesting to reflect back about what you discover over the course of a year! This could be something you learned about your body, something you learned about relationships, or something you learned about sex in general.

I learned to love my body a little more than I did the year before, and I hope that's something that can continue into the next year.
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I got a lot better at discussing boundaries, giving feedback, and feeling comfortable being really enthusiastic about the things I'm most excited about. I still want to work on communication but I'm happy that I got so much better this past year.
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Unread post by capablehippie »

I learned that sex is real this year. Just about a year ago I had my first kiss, and for the past year I've been learning about being with another person. What I mean by "real" is that doing sexual things takes up time, and energy, and can make you feel sore (even while it feels good). It's not just in the moment, it stays with you physically and mentally. I don't know why, I just never thought about those aspects of it. Maybe that sort of thing isn't portrayed well in media, or the media I am exposed to, or maybe it just wasn't going to occur to me until it became my personal reality.
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Re: What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?

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I've only been masturbating for about a year. I've learned a lot about my body but still have a lot to learn. I think the most important thing I learned is that medication side effects make it hard for me to feel pleasure. It's sad but good to know.
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I learned that I have sexual feelings as an individual - and that with that comes a lot of questions! This year, I also had my first boyfriend, my first kiss, and discovered masturbation. I've really learned a lot about myself!
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I've learned that I'm attracted to both boys and girls, and not necessarily in the same way or the same amount, and that my anus isn't an off-limits gross zone
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i learned that for me sex is more than just the one act i thought it was. i learned that to enjoy sex, i need to feel connected to my own body first and then my partner's. i learned that my boundaries matter and i will not feel guilty for respecting them and asking my partner to respect them too. i learned that thoughts, feelings, ideas about sex, gender, and identity change and that is OK. and i learned that talking about sex makes the sex infinitely better.
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I learned that while I identify as poly, I can still be happy in a monogamous relationship with someone I really love! My partner helped me discover that identity is not set in stone, and can mean different things for different people. This is my first relationship in years, because I was too afraid that I would get "bored" or not be happy with one sexual partner. I've been with my current partner for more than six months, the longest I've ever been in a relationship, and it's scary and wonderful and exciting.
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I learned that I am not a horrible person and that I have a chance at love. I learned that just because I love talking about sex doesn't make me a terrible perverted person. But, most of all, I've begun to learn (and am still learning) that I can be a sexy person who enjoys themselves sexually.
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an update:in the past 2 years I've become more flexible (in both ways hehe) and become more comfortable in my own skin in relation to partners, and I've learned how to properly shave my genital region
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This year, I was introduced to kink and bdsm, and I discovered that I really enjoy a lot of parts of it. In all of my fantasies in the past, I was in a bottom position, and this year, with a lot of research and experimentation, I realized that it's a part of who I am.
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I learned this year that I keep on crying after partaking in my own sexual-acts.
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I’ve tried shibari (Japanese bondage) and realized I really like it)
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So great to read everyone's responses, old and new. Bikinksterboy thanks for bumping this thread.

I have learned how to better listen to my desires (Am I wanting to be sexual? Am I not wanting to be sexual? If I am, what am I desiring?) and communicate that to my partner.
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I've learned how much I don't know about myself! That may sound... not very helpful, but it's actually encouraged me to think about things that I kind of shyed away from for a long time, so I can start adressing them, which is good! At the very least I feel more honest with myself in terms of gender identity and sexuality, even if I still have more to learn.
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Realizing that sex is and can be multiple things, that sexuality can be fluid and that’s perfectly okay, I deserve respect from my partner and vice versa, and sex should be consensual, fun, and safe!
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:D So far, I've learned that masturbation is actually very relaxing. I also realized that someone I know who lives in California is actually very sweet to me. :roll: :oops:
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Unread post by bikinksterboy »

something I've learned about myself is that my anus can't stretch as far as I thought it could! it was a painful lesson but I won't soon forget it!
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Unread post by IrisEnfys »

I realized I was bisexual, and now can't stop fantasizing about sexual things even though I identified as ace last year and don't know how to get a partner. I also discovered I love the movie Titanic and can give people migraines with my voice if I sing badly (Oops).
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