On the subject of masturbation...

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Laurlel
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On the subject of masturbation...

Unread post by Laurlel »

I don't know if this is a normal thing or not, but I get more out of not touching myself and imagining things, rather than actually touching myself and using something to masturbate.

Sometimes I'm just not in the mood to imagine things, and my internet is too slow to load porn or anything of the sort to try and stimulate myself. I try rubbing my clit since that is supposed to be a particularly sensitive part, but all it really seems to do is make me twitch and jerk.

I'm not particularly sure what I should do when I'm in a mood and wanting something at this point. The fact I try a lot and yet can't seem to stimulate myself at all makes me wonder if I'm somehow doing something wrong.
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Re: On the subject of masturbation...

Unread post by solareclipse94 »

Hello Laurlel,
So I can't really give you any advice, but it sounds to me that you think you should be doing something differently. The fact that you are asking for advice is great and something you should know is that everyone masturbates in different ways. No one masturbates the same exact way. We are all different.

As for how to stimulating yourself, I can't really give you any advice. All I know is that whatever you try, it's not wrong in any way, shape, or form. If this helped, I'm glad.
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Re: On the subject of masturbation...

Unread post by Siân »

Hi Laurlel!

There's nothing wrong or strange about being more into imagination and fantasy than touching yourself. In fact, even when people are stimulating their body, what's happening in their thoughts is often an important part of their enjoyment.

You're certainly not doing anything wrong; there is no "right" way to masturbate. If you do want to try incorporating physical stimulation into your routine, it's worthwhile experimenting some to see what does and doesn't feel good. The clitoris does have a lot of nerve endings, but often people like to build up to touching there until they're already pretty aroused so it's worth having an explore. Does that make sense?

You can read a bit more here: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation What do you think?
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