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Top Surgery

Unread postby IAmScared » Fri Jan 18, 2019 3:36 am

Ok so I have a big problem.I want to be a boy ever since I came out as trans when I was 16.Now I'm 24. I have a top surgery date on 26th February.I'm scared I'm going to regret it.

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Re: Top Surgery

Unread postby Heather » Fri Jan 18, 2019 7:50 am

We can talk with you about this, but this is also a conversation you should be having with your healthcare team, including your psychiatric provider(s). Have you spoken with them about this and with all the other current struggles you have posted about on the boards?
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Re: Top Surgery

Unread postby IAmScared » Fri Jan 18, 2019 8:12 am

I spoke to my "regular" psychiatrist about changing my mind and she said I should do the surgery.
I haven't talked to my sexual therapist yet since I have an appointment only in February.
My mum says that since I am unhappy about my breasts now,even if I regret the surgery it won't be worse then now.

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Re: Top Surgery

Unread postby Sam W » Fri Jan 18, 2019 11:19 am

My suggestion then would be to wait at least until you've had a chance to talk to the rest of your healthcare team about this issue, along with the other concerns you've posted about on the boards.

If you want information on the myths and realities of trans people regretting surgery, that's something we can provide you with, but ultimately the bulk of your conversations about this should be with your healthcare team, as they're best equipped to address your concerns.

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Re: Top Surgery

Unread postby phantomdog » Tue Feb 19, 2019 1:07 am

additionally, there can be different ways in which people end up dissatisfied / regretful of top surgery. it could help to pinpoint whether you're concerned you'll regret
a. not having breasts anymore
b. the cosmetic outcome of the surgery
-it appearing bad
-it appearing less aesthetically pleasing than breasts
c. something going wrong during surgery that messes it up

ultimately, if you have dysphoria and that pertains to your chest, you will likely not regret it and i think everyone stops and worries if they will. like sam said, speak to your healthcare team and believe in yourself. you'll be fine!

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Re: Top Surgery

Unread postby IAmScared » Tue Mar 12, 2019 11:58 am

Top surgrey done on 27th February. Totally did NOT regret it. Happy with the results :)

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Re: Top Surgery

Unread postby Mo » Tue Mar 12, 2019 2:09 pm

I'm so glad you're happy with your results! That's great to hear.


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