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by Redskies
Wed May 03, 2017 7:26 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Boyfriend depressed?
Replies: 38
Views: 16376

Re: Boyfriend depressed?

It's usually a good idea to try not to read too much into the other person's behaviour after a break-up. Even for the person who did the breaking up, break-ups are often still hard and confusing, and they also often need time to process and to adjust. One option you do have, if you'd like more space...
by Redskies
Sat Apr 29, 2017 10:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Peer pressure advice
Replies: 1
Views: 1477

Re: Peer pressure advice

I'm sorry that you've had this experience and that you're feeling crummy. Feeling pressured into something is a rotten experience. The best advice I can give you actually doesn't involve being able to "get over" it today. You're having some strong feelings about this, and when we're having...
by Redskies
Sat Apr 29, 2017 9:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about sperm
Replies: 9
Views: 5091

Re: Questions about sperm

Whatever words that people know or are comfortable with using to describe their own life are fine with us! We'll tend to use more of the scientific-type terms ourselves because that's a better fit for our role as educators, but there's certainly no requirement for our users :)

You're very welcome!
by Redskies
Sat Apr 29, 2017 9:35 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Does this count as abuse?
Replies: 14
Views: 8519

Re: Does this count as abuse?

We wouldn't find it disappointing to hear that a user no longer feels uncomfortable or pressured. If you're comfortable being nude and it's a thing you want, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being unclothed in your own home. It's a choice that some people make, and indeed, there's often no sexu...
by Redskies
Fri Apr 28, 2017 2:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about sperm
Replies: 9
Views: 5091

Re: Questions about sperm

(lexxbot: This is the Ask Us board, which is for the original poster and staff/volunteer replies only. You're welcome to join in on our other boards. See you there!) Username 123: welcome to the boards! Thinking about this in terms of "killing" sperm, and whether it's alive or dead, tends ...
by Redskies
Tue Apr 25, 2017 11:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Birth control and checked luggage
Replies: 3
Views: 2031

Re: Birth control and checked luggage

It might help to know where the usual advice about putting medication in your carry-on and not in your checked baggage comes from: it's so that you can keep something important, that you need, with you. If the airline misplaces your checked baggage - temporarily or not! - you'll still have your medi...
by Redskies
Fri Apr 21, 2017 7:26 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD risk
Replies: 8
Views: 3859

Re: STD risk

Per the stress and worry, you're really going to need to simply take care of yourself as best you can while you're waiting: try Self-Care a La Carte for some suggestions and helps with that. With STI testing, it's best for each person to get tested: a partner's results can't tell you your own STI st...
by Redskies
Thu Apr 20, 2017 5:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Spotting after sex
Replies: 10
Views: 3636

Re: Spotting after sex

There's nothing in the situation you're describing which would suggest any concern about any serious underlying cause. Your doctor likely didn't mention any serious conditions because there was truly no need to investigate or consider them. A bit of spotting once every so often is something that we'...
by Redskies
Wed Apr 19, 2017 8:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Female vegina problem after sex
Replies: 1
Views: 1826

Re: Female vegina problem after sex

We aren't doctors, we're sex and relationships educators. We can give lots of information about many sex-related things, including sexual health, but we cannot give a medical opinion about someone's health because we aren't healthcare providers. Too, no-one should try to diagnose anything over the i...
by Redskies
Wed Apr 19, 2017 8:15 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control
Replies: 7
Views: 3125

Re: Birth control

We can't suggest brand names, because there are very very many of them and they're different from one country to another. Too, different brands have very slightly different amounts of hormones, and sometimes those differences make one brand more suitable for one person with their own specific needs ...
by Redskies
Wed Apr 19, 2017 7:37 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Spotting after sex
Replies: 10
Views: 3636

Re: Spotting after sex

Are you up-to-date with your STI testing? I know you said you saw a doctor and you had a pap smear a couple of months ago, but you didn't mention any STI testing, and it's important to be able to rule out STIs as a possible cause of spotting after sex. It's very common to get some breakthrough bleed...
by Redskies
Wed Apr 19, 2017 7:05 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Peeing while dryhumping
Replies: 6
Views: 3282

Re: Peeing while dryhumping

gatesy08: this post is on the Ask Us board, which is for the original poster and staff/volunteers only. You're very welcome to join in on the rest of the boards - see you there! Thanks! freakedout18: We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users w...
by Redskies
Mon Apr 17, 2017 12:16 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: raceplay?
Replies: 1
Views: 4117

Re: raceplay?

Probably obviously, the perspective on race play is going to be different for a white person than it is for people of colour, and also different according to whether the person is part of an oppressed racial/ethnic minority where they live. There's always a lot of care to be taken when playing with ...
by Redskies
Mon Apr 17, 2017 11:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't think I have a vagina hole... How can I tell for sure??
Replies: 2
Views: 8173

Re: I don't think I have a vagina hole... How can I tell for sure??

I also wanted to add: are you seeing or feeling an opening in your body that you're thinking is your urethra? If you are, it's very likely that this opening isn't your urethra but is instead your vaginal opening. The urethra is very small and we usually don't see or feel it as an opening.
by Redskies
Mon Apr 17, 2017 11:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control
Replies: 7
Views: 3125

Re: Birth control

The typical use figures for condoms we have at Scarleteen are a little higher than 82%: as you can see in our piece about condoms that Karyn linked you to above, our major sources list 85% and 86%. It's important to remember what "typical use" means: how people actually use the method in r...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 16, 2017 12:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Missed Period?
Replies: 1
Views: 1713

Re: Missed Period?

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 16, 2017 12:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hole in birth control package
Replies: 7
Views: 6973

Re: Hole in birth control package

It's best to check with a pharmacist, as they're the experts about medication. The main purpose of a blister pack is to keep the tablets safe from any kind of degradation from air or moisture, so personally, what I would do is to store the pill pack in a clean, dry, air-tight container (or if you do...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 09, 2017 1:00 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Introducing and demystifying sex for my 16 y.o.
Replies: 6
Views: 2697

Re: Introducing and demystifying sex for my 16 y.o.

Adding on to the information Karyn posted- Another big difference between the mom-and-the-sex-toy-offer story and what you were originally suggesting is that her offer happened when she knew her son was in a place where it was relevant (she knew her son had sex toys), and she knew that improved safe...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 09, 2017 11:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: help needed..
Replies: 3
Views: 3640

Re: help needed..

Extra to what Mo said: there's no problem with you feeling more room in your vagina. There are a couple of reasons why you likely felt more space inside you when you masturbated. First, the vagina changes size at different times. Ordinarily, the vaginal walls are closed together, and there's no spac...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 09, 2017 11:19 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Bi or Straight?
Replies: 2
Views: 4766

Re: Bi or Straight?

First, I'd suggest that you try not to second-guess yourself or give yourself a hard time about why you're feeling what you're feeling. I'm hearing you say that sometimes you think you might be into girls, and you're not yet sure what that means to you or what it means about your orientation. Does t...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 09, 2017 10:51 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pads vs Tampons
Replies: 4
Views: 3359

Re: Pads vs Tampons

Before this painful experience with a tampon put you off, how comfortable (or not) did you feel with touching your own genitals? How familar or comfortable are/were you generally with inserting anything - for example, your own finger - into your vagina? When you put the tampon in and took it out, we...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 09, 2017 10:21 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What can precum do?
Replies: 1
Views: 2042

Re: What can precum do?

To see the possible risks of different kinds of sexual activities: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

To learn how reproduction can happen, and what's necessary for reproduction to be possible: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide
by Redskies
Sun Apr 09, 2017 10:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Three Boys
Replies: 3
Views: 3059

Re: Three Boys

Hi EndorPlanet, LandUnderWave says some very solid things here, and I'd tend to agree with her. If what you want is to end the romantic relationship, it is definitely, definitely okay to end it. No matter how long or how short a time you've been in it! None of us ever owe someone else a particular l...
by Redskies
Sun Apr 09, 2017 9:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Risks of pregnancy - Plese help this anxious teen!!!
Replies: 1
Views: 1356

Re: Risks of pregnancy - Plese help this anxious teen!!!

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Redskies
Thu Apr 06, 2017 6:15 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Introducing and demystifying sex for my 16 y.o.
Replies: 6
Views: 2697

Re: Introducing and demystifying sex for my 16 y.o.

We're not the right place for discussions about how to engage a sex worker. I'd strongly advise you to reconsider this whole plan for your currently-14 year-old. You know the phrase "putting the cart before the horse"?- this strikes me as putting the whole fleet of jumbo jets before the ho...