I'm very happy to help, and you're so welcome!

Most people have a gag reflex. It's one of the automatic nervous system responses that the body has in order to do something useful or essential for us: for the gag reflex, to help keep things away from the throat that aren't supposed to be there, to help prevent us choking on something or swallowin...

Yes, you'll need to use condoms every time you have sex, as well as taking your pill, in order to protect yourself from pregnancy. Because you missed pills for several days in a row, the levels of hormones in your body won't be what they would normally be with your pill. That means that you can't re...

Hi calmandcute, thewrit3r covered the parts here about how expectations can be unhelpful pretty comprehensively. I'd like to talk about a completely different angle to your question :) When I read your question, I was thinking that what you're describing might not be any kind of a problem at all, an...

To answer your question about discussing porn-watching: It depends what you want and what you feel comfortable with. You don't have to ask your parents their opinion about watching porn, or talk with them about you watching porn, if you don't want to. When people talk to their parents about sex, usu...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

What kind of arrangements do you already have with your parents about you yourself, and your parents, each having private time in your home? For example: some families have a house rule about knocking on someone else's bedroom door before you go in. Do you and your parents already have anything like...

Welcome to the boards! There's nothing in what you've said here that sounds even a little bit wrong :) First, let's take your age out of the picture for just one minute. Some people do have an interest in BDSM or in some aspects of BDSM. There's nothing wrong with that! Some people talk about it as ...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

I removed the website name because it's our policy not to have links to 18+ sites, as many of our users are under 18. Having that website name here would also not be respectful to our younger users, when your profile says you're 28. We're not really the right people to ask about the status or legali...

pennyvalence, welcome to the boards, and I'm so very sorry that you're going through this and finding it so hard. I'd co-sign Iwanthelp's excellent advice above. How would you feel about taking some space from your former partner? Does that seem like something that might help? Break-ups tend to be p...

Congratulations, both on your own improved situation and on your new parenthood!

So long as you're not involving anyone else with your sexual life without their consent, there's no problem. So, anything that's only happening in your own mind and your own body is fine. You just wouldn't want to make anyone an unconsenting observer: it'd be fine to have anything you wanted inside ...

Your vagina - anyone's vagina - doesn't need to "get used" to any kind of entry or sexual activity. That's not how vaginas work :) Any kind of entry or sexual activity doesn't cause any kind of permanent change to any of your genitals, so there's no such thing as your vagina "getting ...

The best people to ask about your frequent urination are your healthcare professionals who are aware of your recent health situation and surgery. They're the people who have the right medical knowledge and your own health history, and they'd be able to tell you whether this frequent urination is som...

Our guidelines, that you agreed to when you created an account, ask that users do not create multiple accounts. Jellyfish, we've already suggested to you that you seek help from anxiety-specific services and professionals, as assistance with anxiety is outside our scope. We will not answer ANY quest...

That's the exact right kind of question to take to your counsellor, and what'll likely happen with that is that the two of you will figure out some strategies and a plan of action over some time, adjusting according to what helps you and what your needs are. Those observations you just made will be ...

It's worth knowing, too, that what a person likes in porn can be different than what they like in their own life. It's not uncommon. Usually, we wouldn't consider someone's porn preferences to be part of their orientation if those preferences were only part of a fantasy life and not attractions or d...

That's good to hear! Well done you

For getting yourself through the time until your appointment as best you can and as kind to yourself as you can, have you seen our Self-Care a La Carte? Any extra suggestions there that might be helpful to you?

Welcome to the boards. It's usually not a good idea to get sexually or romantically involved with anyone who's supposed to have a monogamous commitment to someone else. Putting everything else aside for a moment, those kinds of situations nearly always get way, way more complicated that anyone invol...

Yep, you have your pill's full contraceptive protection throughout your placebo pills (so long as you're taking it according to the instrucions, of course). The pill is equally effective at all times of the cycle. If you'd like to know how that works, How do birth control pills really work, even dur...

Do you have any sense of what might be different for you recently? For example, has anything been different in your relationship or in how you feel about you relationship? How about in your life in general: any changes, or anything more stressful than usual? Have you felt more worried or anxious tha...

I answered this for you in a thread you already have, http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic. ... 24&p=32114 , to keep our discussion about the same topic in one place so it's easier for us and you to follow.

Really, you'll want to put a great deal more stock in what your doctor advised you to do than in what your friends have said. It's your doctor's job to correctly advise patients about how to take medication, after all. When a doctor's advice differs from what's in a pamphlet, the doctor's advice is ...

There are a few possible directions to take with this situation, so I'll suggest a few and you can see what might suit you, and then we can help you figure out how to go about it. Okay? Would you like to get more comfortable with touching menstrual blood? What is it about bloody fingers that you don...