Hi there, chailover. As you can probably figure out what "the college experience" even is varies by a whole lot, and that includes people's experiences of their sexual lives in college. For some people that's no partners at all, for others it is a handful of different partners, be they cas...

Did you touch it? Might it have been mucus/discharge rather than tissue (skin)?

Hi there, Alex. It sounds to me like, in line with what Latha has suggested, that you approach any sex with your partner here form the standpoint of what feels okay as far as trauma goes, rather than by trying to reach orgasm. Trying to reach orgasm in this situation sounds to me a little bit like s...

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. So, bleeding isn't "supposed" to happen with sex, period, and it usually doesn't, including with first time intercourse. When it does, it's usually due to a minor injury by way of abrasion, due to not using lubricant or not using enough, a partner or ev...

You know, it sounds to me like this guy already has a pretty full roster, and from what I can tell from your posts so far, you're not looking for what sounds most likely to be a one-time thing with someone you only are attracted to physically.

Do I have that right?

I just think that because you are so clear that you also do not really want to be masturbating, that continuing to do that while also feeling so much discomfort with having these desires in the first place is not a great choice for your mental health or towards hopefully, in time, resolving all of t...

No big!

So, "libido" is just a word for sexual desire, just so we're all on the same page. I asked how long this lasts to find out how long you'd have to potentially feel uncomfortable for if you didn't masturbate to try and quell it. If that was minutes or hours, that would obviously be very diff...

No judgment about just being physically attracted to someone! I was just trying to get a sense of the bigger picture. That said, if you're not just looking for a sexual interaction or relationship, my advice would be to try and get a better sense of him as a person first before, say, asking him out,...

Hey there, Lexie. Welcome to the boards. :) Can you tell me a little more about what you know about him besides what he looks like and what interactions with other girls he may or may not have had? What draws you to him, besides finding his appearance appealing? Can you also tell me what you mean wh...

For how long does that last, those feelings? A few minutes? Hours? Days? Longer?

You know, Laaviv, some of what you're saying here sounds a lot like some talk I have heard from my friends and colleagues over the years who are fiction writers. I have absolutely heard people who feel very attached to some of their characters (this is sometimes called a parasocial relationship, if ...

Hello, again! Hopefully you've been doing well in your absence from the boards. :) And thanks for looking for answers on the site first! Appreciate you! Ultimately, we're just not going to be able to tell you what this was. If it came from your urethra, though, it was either urine, ejaculate or some...

Hi there, lycheefan. So, there's no static, or set, way that the vaginal opening, vaginal canal, or the muscles around it are. They chance in a bunch of ways, pretty much all the time, depending on a whole host of factors, things like where a person is at in their fertility/menstrual cycle (or place...

Can I just pop into the thread here and ask what happens if you don’t masturbate? Typically, feeling of sexual desire will come and go even if we don’t do anything with them, and it certainly is not unhealthy NOT to masturbate. That’s something a lot of people like to do, but it’s never something an...

100% agree with Nadine here. I want to add that there is also no such thing as a “perfect 28 day cycle.” That whole idea actually comes from a very poorly (and very racist, too!) and shockingly amateur science project of sorts in the 1940s. You can look up “Norma” and the American Museum of Natural ...

Well, literally speaking they are ongoing interactions we have with other people. Seriously, that's it. I have a relationship with my bus diver just like I I do with a lover, they are just very different kinds of relationships. Honestly, I think often the older we get, and the more complex we all be...

Absolutely agreed that media tends to overblow orgasm and make them all seem like they are that kind, especially for women!

I don't think I'd say that those of us who are ENM/poly necessarily have bigger support/social networks but I WILL say that some frameworks and ways of enacting monogamy can involve more isolation for people in couples, which can for sure make it harder for monogamous people to create networks. I th...

Hey there, Dennis. Welcome to the boards. I appreciate your offering help, but just wanted to drop a couple notes. I see you very focused on the person lulu is interested in being obsessed with her, but I am not sure I understand why you have that concern. I don't think anything she's said here abou...

Hey, Jay, I do just want to mention a couple of things! First up, I think what Latha said about only trying to work this out too much before you have even met a person who this could be about is so, so important. She's right. But I also think that if you are having feelings of anxiety at not being a...

Just FYI, I did a bunch of checking on your legal medical rights as a minor in AUS, and everything I found appears to say that at age 14, everyone has privacy rights with care and their health information. So, in this case, all that should need to happen is for you to say no, you do not consent to y...

Hi there, Laayiv. That should be a choice for you -- if a parent or anyone else is in your therapy appointment. That's not something that your mother should just be doing and without your therapist okaying it with you first! As is obvious, your therapy is going to be functionally useless this way: o...

Hi there, lulu28843. (One of my dog's names is Lulu!) I think your friend is right, that it's not an actual big deal. But I also get how you're feeling. Walking by your crush with the poopy phone bag post whole-team-radio-call-on-this-debacle sounds like it would feel mortifying, for sure. I think y...

Okay! We'll leave this here then and I hope you hear from some folks.