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- Wed Dec 13, 2023 2:14 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I have difficulty in masturbation
- Replies: 16
- Views: 21617
Re: I have difficulty in masturbation
I understand. It can often take experimenting to find what works for us -- different medications, a medication plus a certain kind of therapy, and life changes, too. By all means, if you're living in a place or family that makes you feel bad, that feeds your depression, that's also going to be hard ...
- Wed Dec 13, 2023 1:25 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I have difficulty in masturbation
- Replies: 16
- Views: 21617
Re: I have difficulty in masturbation
Talk therapy usually isn't very effective for depression, especially not by itself. It's usually medication that has a greater success rate. That might be something you can look into on your own with a doctor, regardless of what your parents think. (And I am so sorry they have been so dismissive of ...
- Wed Dec 13, 2023 12:36 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I have difficulty in masturbation
- Replies: 16
- Views: 21617
Re: I have difficulty in masturbation
So, I'd surmise that the big why here is probably your depression, and that this most likely would or will be something you'd experience to at least some degree with a partner, too, especially after the zing of new interactions or the newness of a relationship wears off. Are you getting any treatmen...
- Wed Dec 13, 2023 10:18 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I have difficulty in masturbation
- Replies: 16
- Views: 21617
Re: I have difficulty in masturbation
So, it sounds like this is a bigger issue that's also impacting your masturbation, but not just your masturbation. Usually anhedonia -- the term for not experiencing pleasure or joy in things -- is connected to issues like depression or anxiety. Are either or both of those things that you live with ...
- Wed Dec 13, 2023 10:02 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I have difficulty in masturbation
- Replies: 16
- Views: 21617
Re: I have difficulty in masturbation
Hey there. Can I ask if there are other ways in your life that you have been able to experience pleasure and really get into just the experience, without having any kind of goal? For instance, maybe with eating or cooking, with some kind of sport or movement, with a creative pursuit like making art ...
- Wed Dec 13, 2023 8:04 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Anyone used delay spray?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3687
Re: Anyone used delay spray?
Desensitization creams and sprays are generally not something we advise. Some of them have ingredients that can irritate genital tissue of the user and their partner, but more to the point, we're really here for sex that accepts and honors what people's bodies can and can't do. We just know that app...
- Mon Dec 11, 2023 12:20 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pregnancy Scare
- Replies: 5
- Views: 7707
Re: Pregnancy Scare
I'm really glad to hear that it lightened your burden. You're so welcome. I also get all of the ways you're talking about feeling here, and I think it's easy to see how, without knowing/learning how to manage fears, it's easy for them to get dialed up to top volume. It is scary to think about being ...
- Mon Dec 11, 2023 10:02 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: possible hormonal problems?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 10944
Re: possible hormonal problems?
Hey there: since you're in the US healthcare system, the most efficient -- and most likely to be covered by your insurance or public health -- way for you to get the right healthcare for this would be for your therapist to share this information with your PCP (primary care provider), and then THEY c...
- Mon Dec 11, 2023 9:47 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pregnancy Scare
- Replies: 5
- Views: 7707
Re: Pregnancy Scare
I want to start with this, in the hopes it will give you some immediate ease: When pregnant people report that "fluttering" they tend to romantically think it is the fetus. However, what that feeling usually is is gas. Secondly, there are usually VERY specific circumstances to people not k...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 2:27 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Buying sex toys
- Replies: 3
- Views: 4494
Re: Buying sex toys
Target doesn't usually carry a wide selection of sex toys, but that said, if yours had something you wanted, I'd be pretty surprised if they carded you. And if they did, it's not like you'd be in any trouble for trying to buy something, since the legal issue isn't on the buyer, but the seller, end o...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 2:24 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Period is 2 weeks late
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4589
Re: Period is 2 weeks late
Hi there. I think this needs to be the last response we put here when it comes to your scare, because it seems like the way your anxiety is operating, you're just having a hard time accepting and believing the facts. You got a negative result. What happened after the test sat isn't an indication of ...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 2:17 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Buying sex toys
- Replies: 3
- Views: 4494
Re: Buying sex toys
Hey there. You do have to be a legal adult to go into sex toy shops in all states of the US, and because they can get in big legal hot water if they sell to minors, while they might not card at the door, I wouldn't advise buying from a shop until you're of age for that reason. It's tough to run an i...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 10:25 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: tender/sensitive breasts
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2959
Re: tender/sensitive breasts
I'm not sure what you mean by "breast foreplay." "Foreplay" is a really vague term that straight people often use to describe anything and everything they can do before intercourse. It doesn't really tell me anything about the kind of breast stimulation you're asking about. Did w...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 10:23 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I'm in love with an older guy
- Replies: 15
- Views: 8962
Re: I'm in love with an older guy
Are you asking about that first article you talked about, Alex? If so, that was a piece from 2008: it's a very old one, and it's only a piece from one given writer. She's not here anymore for me to bring her whatever questions and concerns you have, so I can't speak for her motivations about it or a...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 10:21 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Confusion about PIV...
- Replies: 11
- Views: 10559
Re: Confusion about PIV...
Hey there. I think that something that makes answering the kinds of questions you're asking impossible is that "women" -- and it sounds like you expressly mean cisgender women -- is a group of BILLIONS of people. Because of that, trying to sort out what works and doesn't, what's good and i...
- Thu Dec 07, 2023 12:17 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
- Replies: 3
- Views: 63495
Re: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
Always happy to help. I think it makes the most sense to center yourself in this, thinking about how other people might react very secondarily. One, because whatever words you decide to use for yourself in any of this, there is literally no situation in which you are going to be required to share th...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 11:57 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pregnancy Scare
- Replies: 3
- Views: 5898
Re: Pregnancy Scare
Hi there, Anne. Who are the people talking to you about this? Whoever they are, something you can do for yourself when you're in a scare like this is both limiting who you talk to about it, and asking those you DO talk to to keep their talk about it with you supportive, or else not talk to you at al...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 10:31 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Why do I get upset over things that aren't a big deal?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 14555
Re: Why do I get upset over things that aren't a big deal?
Morning, Rachel. My experience is that this is the case for a lot of people, but for sure, some kinds of neurodivergence can make it happen more often, be harder to let go of when it does happen, or both. Personally, I wouldn't get hung up on the validity of any of your kinds of upset. We feel what ...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 10:27 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
- Replies: 3
- Views: 63495
Re: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
Good morning. :) You know, the person who will always be the most -- and sometimes the only! -- effected by what words we use for any of the parts of ourselves is us. And often how we figure out who we are, what our identity is, be it with sex or with things like religion, community, what have you, ...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 10:14 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: hymen problems?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 9260
Re: hymen problems?
It doesn't sound like anything is likely actually wrong here to me, just like common variations we can see of the vulva and vaginal opening. But periods shouldn't cause vaginal or vulval pain, if that's what you mean by "thing," and it's also usually okay to see a sexual healthcare provide...
- Mon Dec 04, 2023 12:37 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: is teenage love real?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 8668
Re: is teenage love real?
Hi there, chailover. As you can probably figure out what "the college experience" even is varies by a whole lot, and that includes people's experiences of their sexual lives in college. For some people that's no partners at all, for others it is a handful of different partners, be they cas...
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 10:30 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: hymen problems?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 9260
Re: hymen problems?
Did you touch it? Might it have been mucus/discharge rather than tissue (skin)?
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 8:28 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I feel dread when it comes to sex but have a high libido, I'm confused
- Replies: 5
- Views: 5818
Re: I feel dread when it comes to sex but have a high libido, I'm confused
Hi there, Alex. It sounds to me like, in line with what Latha has suggested, that you approach any sex with your partner here form the standpoint of what feels okay as far as trauma goes, rather than by trying to reach orgasm. Trying to reach orgasm in this situation sounds to me a little bit like s...
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 8:24 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Bleeding after losing virginity
- Replies: 1
- Views: 5755
Re: Bleeding after losing virginity
Hi there, and welcome to the boards. So, bleeding isn't "supposed" to happen with sex, period, and it usually doesn't, including with first time intercourse. When it does, it's usually due to a minor injury by way of abrasion, due to not using lubricant or not using enough, a partner or ev...
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 8:19 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
- Replies: 23
- Views: 1900360
Re: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
You know, it sounds to me like this guy already has a pretty full roster, and from what I can tell from your posts so far, you're not looking for what sounds most likely to be a one-time thing with someone you only are attracted to physically.
Do I have that right?
Do I have that right?