I want this guy because he's there and seems interested in me in some shape or form. I know that isn't really very good, but it's kind of where I'm at right now. So it's not so much that I want him, but that I want someone. And it does feel a bit like all my future relationships hinge on this one. Y...

The part about loneliness really resonates with me. I am lonely. In terms of the social aspects of university, I may as well be in first year. I was just too sick the past two years to make any lasting connections with people. I made a friend or two, but not people I see any more than every few mont...

I'd love to talk about that! I'm not really sure where to begin.

Yeah, I think my biggest issue is getting attached too fast.

I thought it might be a bit soon to ask him what he wanted. So for now I suppose I'll hold off on all the big stuff and just, let this thing be.

So I've started a new something with this guy I met a few days ago. I'm not really sure what to call it. We met, flirted, got to know a bit about each other and then we had sex. I'm super excited about the possibilities of what this can turn into, but as a good friend warned me, I also need to be co...

So I need to make my in closure. Okay. Tough but doable. And yes, I totally don't feel casual about this so whatever I start calling what I want in relationships and sex, I really need to stop calling it casual sex. I'm starting, slowly, to build back from this blow. Its a lesson, about what I want ...

How do I move past this without any closure? I can't help but wonder why he wants to make a fool of me. I can't help but wonder a thousand things and hope to run into him on campus so I can ask him WHY and tell him he is mean to just block me, with not so much as an "I've changed my mind, goodb...

So now it seems like he blocked me on Facebook and he's not answering my texts!

I'm pissed off. I guess I just need to accept that this guy wants to act like a jerk and move on.

Thanks Heather, I really appreciate the feedback and not telling me what I thought you were going to. It makes me feel a whole lot better about doing this. And thank you for the link, for some reason I thought hormonal IUDs weren't available in Canada. I think it is a really good idea to let him kno...

And I just want to add: this doesn't mean I'm ditching the plan to go on a few dates with people at the queer centre, if I find anyone who wants to go out with me.

Well, he messaged me again and changed his mind back. (Like, he asked me if I want to have sex with him. And btw, I said probably). And I really, really want to have sex with him. I know, Heather, that you're probably going to tell me that it doesn't sound like I want casual sex and so it's a bad id...

Yeah it is sounding more and more like casual sex is just waayyy too much for me with where I'm at right now. I'm going to try getting involved in the queer center at my school. It will also open up some basic socialization opportunities too which are something I really need. Now all I've got to do ...

...develop some sort of general script for yourself that goes something like this: "If you're interested, I'd love to go home with you/have you come home with me for some sexytimes. But I do know about myself that I'm not really down for that being something where there's nothing but that ever...

That's sounds great Heather! Have a great meeting.

Yes that all sounds right.

I guess part of what I want and like about casual sex is that I don't have to do all the work around setting up a relationship. I can just skip straight to the physical part of it. But if I'm really honest, I want the relationship part of it too. I guess I just wanted casual sex because it ended up ...

I still can't help thinking: what if I had said this or that differently? Would he have not changed his mind? I know that is a thought I need to starve out, but I don't know how. And I am still fantasizing that he will change his mind and contact me on Saturday (the day we had agreed upon). How do I...

Thanks for the compliment Heather. I'll try and bear it in mind.

Those kinds of questions really sound mostly to me like brain weasels running amok because your confidence took a hit (understandable), and IMO, you don't want to feed those. You want to starve them out and just take what you can from this to figure out what might work better for you -- for yoursel...

By the way Heather, thank you for replying to me so quickly, I really appreciate it and I know you are super busy. :) One of the things that really resonates with me about that article is the statement that “No really does mean just No”. Because I have been attaching a lot of other things to his NO....

In my past relationship there were times where I wanted sex, but my boyfriend didn't, but they were easy to handle because I knew there was always time for sex later. In this situation, there won't be sex later (probably not anyways) so I'm finding it harder to handle. I lived on the same floor as t...

So, I almost had casual sex with someone. He initiated the conversation, we set up a time, a place, and then he just backed out of it. It's totally his right to do that and I'm glad he did that rather than having sex he wasn't comfortable with, but I'm left feeling totally bummed out. I've only ever...

For the first time in years I've been sleeping well. I was dealing with undiagnosed bipolar disorder which really does a number on your sleep cycle. Now a combination of meds and knowing what I'm up against has restored my sleep cycle. Mostly I had issues with going to sleep on time. Throughout high...

Heather wrote:You hear that, tampons? She is SO DONE with you.

^^I love this!

http://m.huffpost.com/ca/entry/6400684

A totally cool looking store with just one section: Clothes for people with Bodies.