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I wanted to say this a while ago, but held off until Heather was happy to keep talking. I think it's probably true that a lot of the negativity you're talking about in interactions with women has come from your perception and what you focus on (big time depression thing, that). But when you do come ...

I actually came up against this recently from the other angle: I was applying for a government job, and had been told by existing employees that they're very good about adjustments, which is great. But they also have a scheme under which if you're disabled and you meet the minimum criteria, you're g...

I think it's a misnomer to describe any body part as inherently sexual or non-sexual. Sex and sexuality are things that come out of people's interactions (sometimes one-sided interactions, e.g. one person looking at and thinking about another), so the only way to determine whether a body part is sex...

Y'know, I don't have views nearly as strong as your boyfriend's; but on the basis of the medical stuff I've read, I'm very sceptical about SSRIs. But my girlfriend takes them, and that's 110% her decision. She finds that they help her, and whatever I might think about the likelihood of that having a...

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so sucky! *jedi hugs* Getting trapped in the cycle of crazy thoughts is a really hard thing to avoid, but if you can get out of it, even just for a little while, it can be a big relief. Hopefully, therapy tomorrow will be a starting point for getting some good strate...

I just found this on tumblr, which seems to fit quite neatly into this thread: http://amurrrka.tumblr.com/post/1034211 ... wers-would

In terms of this desire being weird, it's not really: it's pretty common for people to find risk exciting, and often that comes out in a desire to potentially get caught doing something sexual. In my opinion, however, it's difficult to achieve practically, because involving someone in sexual activit...

I'm glad it seems to be working out. It's definitely a tough position to be in - as you can see from everyone's differing opinions! - but it sounds like you've handled it very positively, plus, yay for you both ending up with a wonderful friend.

I didn't mean to suggest you should second guess his decision, but I was a little concerned that "You know, I'm actually not better off without you" would sound a bit like "...so you're wrong and we should stay together", which is definitely not what you want to communicate. That...

Y'know, I have to respectfully disagree with Heather on this one. If that is the decision he's made, then yeah, it sounds like you're happy to accept that and that's great. But it sounds like you're not convinced it's really a willing decision that he's made, and that you're worried he was just havi...

Thankyou for making this thread, Sam! I'm at a point in life where I really don't know what I'll be doing even a year from now, and it's difficult when everyone around me seems to have such a tidy plan, and expects me too as well. I always like hearing about people's career paths especially, as you ...

My story is quite like Karyn's. My parents planned for me, bought a bigish house to accommodate the two or three children they wanted to have, and then had a very hard time getting pregnant. Eventually, on her doctor's advice, my Mum quit work to reduce her stress levels, and apparently it worked, b...

I love that video - and the song too, played it far too many times when I first found it :p . And the comments, last time I looked, are pretty amazing too.

Hmm, you've reminded me that for four years I intended to get my nose pierced when I finished my first degree, as a sort of symbolic "holy crap" given how impossible completing a law degree would have been for me for a long time - that was a year and a half ago, I should get on it.

Oh man, do I feel your pain on heavy periods and sanitary products. :P I think probably the first thing I should say is that tampons may not solve all your problems. By all means, try 'em out, they might be miles better than pads: but tampons also need to be changed regularly (every 4-8 hours is the...

I tried commenting on that with my phone earlier (Android and Chrome), and the CAPTCHA wasn't working - the "CAPTCHA" title was there but the CAPTCHA itself just didn't load. Looks like it's fine on desktop, though.

I think one big thing is not about the fact that whatever you wanted to do isn't going to happen, but the fear that you might have totally misjudged the situation or the other person, and asked for something that they think is inappropriate or that's made them really uncomfortable. It's kind of like...

I don't think there's anything that deep to it... just that loving someone, and being loved, feels good. And, you know, that good feeling can be of different strength depending on you and your circumstances, and it can have a whole variety of knock-on effects - just like anything else, it can really...

I think the problem with those two questions is that they're actually another question in disguise - that question being "Am I pregnant?" - and I don't need to tell you why the volunteers won't discuss that question. :) I won't jump in with advice and stuff, because everyone else has done ...

Wow, I didn't realise these places existed in the UK too - that's sad.

Ack; I have some friends on facebook who like to post that kind of sanctimonious crap, it drives me nuts. And I can't just wade in and point out they're just as bad as the hypothetical people they're bitching out, 'cause that'll just make them more inclined to put other people down so they feel big....

You're right: for most people, both romantic and sexual attraction really don't work that way. When someone says they're attracted, romantically or sexually, to a certain gender(s), what they're really saying is that so far, all the people they have been attracted to have been of that/those gender(s...

I think part of the reason why people sometimes say "red flag" when they should say "that's abuse/abusive" is because it's quite a big thing, to declare that someone else's relationship - especially when you don't know the people involved well - is abusive. It can seem a bit arro...

It is a tricky line to draw. All those behaviours you mentioned are indeed abusive behaviours - and lots more besides - and they are, absolutely, wrong; anyone who's doing any of those things in a relationship shouldn't be in relationships until they've learned to treat partners with, at the very le...