You know, the way you're talking it sounds to me like part of the problem is that a lot of the terms about gender and attraction make it so we have to identify our own gender in one binary, certain way to describe who we're attracted to. And for sure, that adds a WHOLE other layer of complications ...

Okay, I can understand those things. That said, I also think that while for sure, sometimes having shorthand (personally, I don't think of or experience the words I use for my own sexual or gender identity as labels, and feel like if I thought of them that way, or they felt that way, I probably wou...

I wonder if you can identify why you feel like you need to pick one -- and stick with it, even if and when it doesn't feel right -- and stick with it? In other words, why not just accept for now nothing really works as shorthand (and hey, so often we don't even need the shorthand, especially if and...

i've been questioning for almost like two years? over that time i've had loads of labels and none of them really stuck. i've been thinking about this for so long i dont think ill ever be done. at this point labels just feel pointless, they don't really mean anything. i feel like i just need to pick ...

i'm not sure why. i don't feel comfortable with them, they make me feel ugly and i hate looking at them. if im wearing something where you can notice them i feel self conscious all day. i feel like i'd look much better without them and id be able to wear more outfits. is that normal? like some guy a...