hi himiko, I also identify as mostly aro, so maybe I can be of some help? I don't have any for sure answers, but here are some thoughts. I think it's possible to be in a relationship that's fairly romantic while still identifying as aromantic - after all, some asexual folks chose to have sex with pa...

Thanks. I definitely get the working up thing, and that's good advice. the odd thing is I'm certainly comfortable with other forms of physical contact with him, it's just his dick that I have any problem with. I've seen it, I've touched it, but it's just not pleasant. well, the good news there is t...

hi arbitrarian! I may not have a solution exactly, but I can definitely sympathize. I've identified as bisexual for a long time, but penises just... kind of intimidate me? the first time I had intimate interactions with a penis-owning person, they were very nice and understanding about it. we didn't...

Hi Afte.rmath, I'm afraid there's not really how-to guide for flirting. I didn't know how it worked when I was 16, and I still don't know how it works now that I'm 21. Part of that, I think, is social anxiety, but part of it is that there's so surefire way to flirt that will apply to everyone, becau...