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by Sam W
Mon Dec 17, 2018 10:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Morning after pill bleeding
Replies: 7
Views: 154

Re: Morning after pill bleeding

Hi ghostwriter, As long as you took the test according to the directions about when and how to test, you can assume the results are accurate (you can read more about that here: Peeing on a Stick: All About Pregnancy Tests ). As Mo said, we can't say whether the bleeding you experienced was your peri...
by Sam W
Sun Dec 16, 2018 9:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I repair a relationship with my best friend?
Replies: 1
Views: 53

Re: How do I repair a relationship with my best friend?

Hi Lillie, It sounds like there are a few different things going on here. First off, can you clarify for me if she ever actually asked you not to sleep with him? Because it sounds more like you two had a conversation about how that would be weird and you probably wouldn't, not a conversation where s...
by Sam W
Sun Dec 16, 2018 9:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pregnancy concerns
Replies: 1
Views: 27

Re: Pregnancy concerns

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 14, 2018 10:26 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Virginity
Replies: 7
Views: 193

Re: Virginity

That sounds like such a sucky thing to be on the receiving end of, especially from someone who is supposed to be caring and supportive, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with it. When he does or says those things, what if you just left the interaction entirely (walk away, go home, or hang-up if you're...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationship Changing: Need support / Navigating feelings
Replies: 2
Views: 75

Re: Relationship Changing: Need support / Navigating feelings

Hi Coolcats, As far as the positive change in your reaction, there could be lots of different reasons for it. For instance, maybe you've grown emotionally since the last time this happened, and are in a place where it's easier to be happy for your partner finding a new person to be sexual with. Or, ...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:21 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Virginity
Replies: 7
Views: 193

Re: Virginity

Hi verapq, Okay, a good starting point would be to take a look at this article, which is broken down into sections based on whether or not you're living with your partner, because it can help you (and us) identify different steps in your plan: The Scarleteen Safety Plan . As you're reading that, do ...
by Sam W
Tue Dec 11, 2018 10:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pregnant or not
Replies: 1
Views: 65

Re: Pregnant or not

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Sat Dec 08, 2018 8:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I come out to everyone?
Replies: 1
Views: 74

Re: How do I come out to everyone?

Hi Mikalahm, It sounds like you very much know what you're talking about, both in terms of your identity and in terms of what things you're worried about in terms of coming out. A starting place, one that might help this feel less like a giant, overwhelming task, is to decide on who it's most import...
by Sam W
Sat Dec 08, 2018 8:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Oral Sex & Pregnancy
Replies: 1
Views: 70

Re: Oral Sex & Pregnancy

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Tue Dec 04, 2018 7:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Boyfriend’s Having Problems
Replies: 1
Views: 197

Re: Boyfriend’s Having Problems

Hi Sunflower, People's sexual response cycles, including things like their refractory period (which you can read about here: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide )and how many times they can have a certain type of sex in a day can be influenced by a bunch of different things. Too, it sounds l...
by Sam W
Tue Dec 04, 2018 7:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: The approach... ready or not?
Replies: 1
Views: 199

Re: The approach... ready or not?

Hi touchscreen. If you're interested in this particular girl, then a next step would be to ask her out or ask her if she returns you're interest. Before you do that, however, it would be sound to clarify for yourself what type of relationship you're interested in having with her. When you say intima...
by Sam W
Mon Dec 03, 2018 10:15 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is this okay?
Replies: 5
Views: 255

Re: Is this okay?

That's actually a huge step in taking care of yourself, and you deserve to feel proud for putting up that much of a boundary with him already. Do you feel like you want to send something to make it clear you are done with him? It sucks that this all happened at a time where your past trauma was flar...
by Sam W
Mon Dec 03, 2018 10:03 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: All good things come to an end?
Replies: 11
Views: 633

Re: All good things come to an end?

Okay! One place to start would be with your college, if you think it's the kind of space where a group of LGBT people could safely form. If you're comfortable giving me a city name, I could also help you look for resources in your area (if you're not, that's okay too). Would it be helpful to brainst...
by Sam W
Mon Dec 03, 2018 9:42 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is this okay?
Replies: 5
Views: 255

Re: Is this okay?

It's certainly understandable that this has you feeling like that. It can be so painful to be vulnerable to someone only to have them deliberately harm you (especially if they know you're a survivor). Again, I'm so sorry that he's choosing to treat you this way. What would be helpful things we could...
by Sam W
Mon Dec 03, 2018 9:22 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is this okay?
Replies: 5
Views: 255

Re: Is this okay?

Hi lsw2121, It sounds like there's a voice in your head already telling you this isn't okay, and that voice is absolutely right. Your boyfriend is using coercion and force to get things he wants from you, and I'm so, so sorry he's choosing to do that. If a partner says "no," or says they a...
by Sam W
Mon Dec 03, 2018 8:36 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: All good things come to an end?
Replies: 11
Views: 633

Re: All good things come to an end?

With your sexual orientation, would finding a group that's supportive be something of interest to you, if you could find a way to do it that didn't put you in a position where you'd have to come out to your family? It makes a lot of sense that having a general plan tends to make you feel better, esp...
by Sam W
Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is there anyone who overcame this?
Replies: 10
Views: 790

Re: Is there anyone who overcame this?

It sounds like you and she are on the same page in terms of what you want to do sexually right now, which is great!

Is there anything else you'd like support around or information on right now?
by Sam W
Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:12 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: All good things come to an end?
Replies: 11
Views: 633

Re: All good things come to an end?

Hi Maple_Syrup, It sounds like you're getting a lot of different inputs about what you should be doing in this situation, which can be stressful all on it's own. But, if I'm understanding you right, the biggest issue here is that you're not sure if he and you have compatible goals and values when it...
by Sam W
Sat Dec 01, 2018 8:31 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Depo effectiveness
Replies: 3
Views: 320

Re: Depo effectiveness

Hi Cjh01, If an appointment is scheduled at the correct time by a healthcare provider, a back-up method of birth control is only needed for the first 24 hours after the shot. If you're unsure as to whether that's what your healthcare provider did, it would be sound to give them a call and ask. Just ...
by Sam W
Fri Nov 30, 2018 8:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is there anyone who overcame this?
Replies: 10
Views: 790

Re: Is there anyone who overcame this?

It sounds like you're simply not experiencing a lot of desire right now (and that's okay!) So, it might actually be helpful to take a break from masturbation or doing anything where you're super-focused on trying to create sexual pleasure in yourself. Trying to experience pleasure when desire isn't ...
by Sam W
Thu Nov 29, 2018 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 1449

Re: Libido Stress

Those are some really heavy feelings to be carrying around, and I'm glad you feel comfortable coming here to talk about them (for the record, you may notice us continuing to urge you to talk about things with your therapist because at a certain point we're not qualified to offer mental health servic...
by Sam W
Thu Nov 29, 2018 11:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Age in Relationships
Replies: 6
Views: 493

Re: Age in Relationships

You're absolutely right that financial manipulation or dependence is something that can pop up in relationships with big age gaps (making someone financially dependent is something that often arises in abusive relationships with partners of any age, but if someone is at an age where they haven't had...
by Sam W
Thu Nov 29, 2018 10:11 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Age in Relationships
Replies: 6
Views: 493

Re: Age in Relationships

Hi Bubbles, The article is built around data that's primarily about teenagers, especially teen girls, and significantly older partners (often men in their twenties). Those types of age gaps, where the younger person is in a considerably different stage of life than the older person, are the ones tha...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 27, 2018 10:28 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: My Sexuality And If I Should Tell My Idiot Father
Replies: 35
Views: 1876

Re: My Sexuality And If I Should Tell My Idiot Father

Working on homework sounds like an excellent plan. If nothing else, it gives you a way to occupy yourself, which can make it harder for emotions to overwhelm you. Is seeing your dad, or being in his space, something you even want to do right now? Or do you wish you at least had the option to go othe...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 27, 2018 10:11 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: My Sexuality And If I Should Tell My Idiot Father
Replies: 35
Views: 1876

Re: My Sexuality And If I Should Tell My Idiot Father

It's completely understandable that you're stressed; dealing with separated parents can bring up a ton of really tough emotions. And being in the new living space of one of them can reinforce those feelings, especially if the separation is still fairly fresh. Do you have some ways to take care of yo...

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