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by Sam W
Sat Feb 16, 2019 9:29 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Having trouble with first-time sex
Replies: 3
Views: 25

Re: Having trouble with first-time sex

You're welcome, and I hope you find some things that work for you!
by Sam W
Sat Feb 16, 2019 8:37 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Having trouble with first-time sex
Replies: 3
Views: 25

Re: Having trouble with first-time sex

Hi anonymous, Finding a position that works for you is mostly going to be a matter of experimentation with which ones feel comfortable and work for each of your bodies. This article may help you two with that process: Left Foot, Red, Right Hand, Green: The Deal on Sex Positions . From what you're de...
by Sam W
Sat Feb 16, 2019 8:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to finger your vagina by yourself
Replies: 12
Views: 113

Re: How to finger your vagina by yourself

Okay! What kind of support could we offer to best help you right now? For example, we could help you connect with resources or information, or we could let this be a space for you to process what happened (or something else entirely),
by Sam W
Sat Feb 16, 2019 8:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I am scared of becoming pregnant
Replies: 1
Views: 14

Re: I am scared of becoming pregnant

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Fri Feb 15, 2019 8:42 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: My changing views on sex & masturbation
Replies: 9
Views: 202

Re: My changing views on sex & masturbation

It looks like Sian already answered this in a separate post, but just in case: No, it's not illegal to post about consensual sexual activities. Since it's self-forgiveness you're after for those activities, what if you simply started by thinking of it like this: "I made the choice to do these t...
by Sam W
Fri Feb 15, 2019 8:07 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What definition of "intercourse" is used in your articles
Replies: 8
Views: 73

Re: What definition of "intercourse" is used in your articles

Yes, we basically use "interlocking" in place of "penetration" because we like the connotations of that word better.
by Sam W
Fri Feb 15, 2019 7:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis lenght
Replies: 4
Views: 53

Re: Penis lenght

Hi farorl04,

Penises come in a variety of shapes and sizes, and you can read more about that here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown . It sounds like you're slightly above average, but unless the size is somehow causing you pain or discomfort, there's no cause for concern.
by Sam W
Thu Feb 14, 2019 9:12 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Scared of Going for STI Test
Replies: 19
Views: 267

Re: Scared of Going for STI Test

If that feels like the best order of operations, and the one that ensures you still get the healthcare you need, then I say that's the process you should go for.

Are there other parts of this situation you'd like help or advice on right now?
by Sam W
Thu Feb 14, 2019 8:58 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Scarleteen Mix #7: Friendship Is Magic
Replies: 0
Views: 30

Scarleteen Mix #7: Friendship Is Magic

We're ponying up and belting it out for our friends this time around! There's a big lovey-dovey holiday today. Whatever. This year we're choosing to loudly appreciate and celebrate the love in our friendships, and all the love we've got for, and feel from, our friends. Life can be rough, and friends...
by Sam W
Tue Feb 12, 2019 9:34 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Question
Replies: 5
Views: 184

Re: Question

Before we get into the other pieces of this, can I ask what kind of support you've gotten/are getting around the trauma you experienced? For instance, did you access any survivors resources? I hear you blaming yourself a lot in your posts, but I want you to know that what's going on isn't a sign tha...
by Sam W
Tue Feb 12, 2019 9:05 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: My changing views on sex & masturbation
Replies: 9
Views: 202

Re: My changing views on sex & masturbation

Hi Tommy, Tommy, With finding someone in your community to talk to about this, would it be helpful for it to be a person who has, or had, a Catholic background who holds more progressive views on sex? And while you've left Catholicism, is a more general, Christian faith still an important part of yo...
by Sam W
Tue Feb 12, 2019 8:25 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Scared of Going for STI Test
Replies: 19
Views: 267

Re: Scared of Going for STI Test

I'm glad to hear you've found a clinic that is making the process seem less intimidating! There are a few things to keep in mind that might help the conversations feel less awkward or imposing. One is that sexual healthcare providers are trained to talk with clients about their sexual history withou...
by Sam W
Tue Feb 12, 2019 8:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Desensitization from aggressive mastrubation?
Replies: 1
Views: 62

Re: Desensitization from aggressive mastrubation?

Hi Faala, It's unlikely that masturbating that way would cause some sort of permanent damage. There isn't really any sound research to suggest that vigorous stimulation of the clitoris can do anyone harm or change anyone's anatomy or sexual response permanently. You mention you've never orgasmed fro...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 12:00 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Scared of Going for STI Test
Replies: 19
Views: 267

Re: Scared of Going for STI Test

Hi Tommy, Tommy,

You're certainly not the first person to feel that way about getting tested, so let's see what we can do to help you manage that feeling so you can look after your sexual health. Can you give me a sense of what, specifically, about getting tested is embarrassing to you?
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 11:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Septate Hymen
Replies: 5
Views: 2131

Re: Septate Hymen

Hi Nooneknowsme,

That sounds like an unpleasant situation! If you're looking for support or advice on it, I'm going to ask that you please make a new thread in order to do so.
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 11:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about BDSM and Abuse
Replies: 17
Views: 2890

Re: Questions about BDSM and Abuse

I'm so, so glad to hear you've been finding the support you need here! With your other post, since you asked to put that conversation on hold that's absolutely something we can do (hopefully the conversation with your partner will help clarify things for you). But, if you have other questions about ...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 9:51 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: When your friend is part of the problem
Replies: 5
Views: 171

Re: When your friend is part of the problem

That's 100% okay too! Sometimes putting things into words is what's needed to help us make sense of a situation. If you want to ask for support or advice on this situation in the future, we'll be more than happy to talk with you. I do want to add that feeling deceived makes a lot of sense in this si...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 9:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: What am i.
Replies: 1
Views: 96

Re: What am i.

Hi Dumbso, Aw, thanks for that kind observation! It sounds like you've done a lot of thinking around your orientation, which is awesome! It can definitely feel confusing if your orientation doesn't seem to fit neatly into any categories, or like it possibly fits into too many at once. If it helps to...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 9:05 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Question
Replies: 5
Views: 184

Re: Question

Hi Sunny1234, I'm so sorry that you've experienced trauma and that it's continuing to have an effect on your relationship. I'm going to have to disagree with your friend a bit; carrying trauma from one relationship into another isn't something we can simply stop doing because it's not pleasant for u...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 8:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Talking about sex
Replies: 1
Views: 109

Re: Talking about sex

Hi Frogeegurl, So, it actually sounds like you're sort of asking two separate things: how to tell your partner you love him and how to say you're feeling ready to have sex with him. I'm splitting those up because they're likely to be two separate conversations. Telling a partner you love them for th...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 11, 2019 8:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Had protected sex, he ejaculated while still having sex
Replies: 1
Views: 88

Re: Had protected sex, he ejaculated while still having sex

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Sun Feb 10, 2019 8:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Do Sperms get immobilized when "smeared" ?
Replies: 12
Views: 265

Re: Do Sperms get immobilized when "smeared" ?

Hi Henn, We can't say why that google search result says what it does, but a likely answer to your question is that things like sex and reproduction tend to have a lot of myths or misinformation attached to them, some of which can make their way into professional spaces. Which means that people who ...
by Sam W
Sun Feb 10, 2019 8:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?
Replies: 62
Views: 35130

Re: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?

Hi Steven, were you a user on our old boards looking to make an account on these?
by Sam W
Sat Feb 09, 2019 9:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worried about younger brother
Replies: 4
Views: 112

Re: Worried about younger brother

Hi Lola, It's clear you really care about and love your brother, and are worried about him, so let's see if we can figure out some ways you can help him out in this situation. I actually think you're well positioned as his sister to talk to him about some of the things that are concerning you, espec...
by Sam W
Sat Feb 09, 2019 8:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: confused
Replies: 5
Views: 128

Re: confused

Hi blondy, That depends a lot on where the fixation is coming from. As a starting point, try reading this article (it goes over common reasons why these fears seem to stick around even when the person having them knows they're irrational): You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are? . Are there a...

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