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by Sam W
Fri Oct 19, 2018 10:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control
Replies: 1
Views: 20

Re: Birth control

Hi Corrie,

We've already set a hard limit with you around these questions. If you want to discuss finding resources for anxiety or OCD cycles, or finding a method you have more confidence in, we're happy to do that.
by Sam W
Fri Oct 19, 2018 8:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation Addiction I think?
Replies: 3
Views: 49

Re: Masturbation Addiction I think?

If you tend to have a higher interest in sex, then it certainly would make sense that you'd find yourself wanting to masturbate often. As Sian said, there's nothing inherently wrong with masturbating everyday. However, you mention it is making you "miserable." Is it the act itself that lea...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 19, 2018 7:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: testicle question
Replies: 7
Views: 72

Re: testicle question

Hi TexasEric, With getting the appointment, there are a few different options you could try. One is to look into scheduling it yourself (it can be helpful to learn how to start doing that sooner rather than later). The other is to figure out how to talk to your parents about getting an appointment i...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 19, 2018 7:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First time masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 38

Re: First time masturbating

Hi Kibbybanks, We can't know for certain what caused the bleeding, although a likely explanation is that you caused a small cut or tear with whatever you were using. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be masturbating (masturbation is a totally normal and fine thing to do), but it may mean that you need...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 18, 2018 9:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Help
Replies: 4
Views: 68

Re: Help

Hi ButterflyBaby, I'm sorry to hear this is causing you so much distress and that you're often in pain. You mention your therapist suggested masturbation therapy. Often, that refers to a client trying things on their own (or maybe with the help of a partner) and experimenting to see if they can find...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 16, 2018 7:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual Sex on Grindr
Replies: 1
Views: 60

Re: Casual Sex on Grindr

Hi Verniver, It sounds like you have a pretty solid sense of how the other person wants this go. So, that means that one questions is: how do you want this process to go? You mention you're not sure if meeting and going straight to sex is what you want. When you think about the different possible wa...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 15, 2018 12:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Terrified of catching feelings for a FWB.
Replies: 5
Views: 123

Re: Terrified of catching feelings for a FWB.

You're welcome! It sounds like you're developing a decent sense of what kinds of feelings or actions might be too much for your friend and for you, which is great. I'd encourage you to keep fleshing that understanding out so that it's less and less of a gray area and checking in with each other (of ...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 15, 2018 12:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual intimacy
Replies: 12
Views: 400

Re: Sexual intimacy

You're very welcome, and I hope those talks go well! One thing that you might find helpful is to write out what you want to talk about ahead of time, as well as what your plan is if he keeps changing the subject or refuses to have the conversation with you. That can help you feel more prepared. Too,...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 15, 2018 11:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual intimacy
Replies: 12
Views: 400

Re: Sexual intimacy

Hi Animallover, There's a lot to talk about here, so I'm going to try and break it down the same way you did. 1 and 2: So, while he may want sex every few days, that's not the same as being unable to go any longer than that without it. Like, he's not going to get sick or turn blue if you and he don'...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 15, 2018 10:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Terrified of catching feelings for a FWB.
Replies: 5
Views: 123

Re: Terrified of catching feelings for a FWB.

Hi biandcurious, welcome to the boards! I'm glad to hear that this relationship has overall been a really positive experience for you, and that you're discovering elements that feel like they were missing in previous relationships. It sounds like you're taking a lot of sound steps already to maintai...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 15, 2018 9:59 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Was I sexually assaulted
Replies: 10
Views: 254

Re: Was I sexually assaulted

Hi PrettyUgly, I'm so sorry your mom wasn't understanding. It can really sting to confide something so raw to someone and have them not give you the support you need. If it's something that you think would be helpful to you, we could give you some articles to give to your mom to help her understand ...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 15, 2018 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Safe Sexting
Replies: 8
Views: 153

Re: Safe Sexting

Okay! This article has things for each of you to consider when talking about what you each want the relationship to be like: Supermodel: Creating & Nurturing Your Own Best Relationship Models . I'd also check out these two articles: How to Clash With Love: Some Conflict Resolution Basics Be a Bl...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 15, 2018 7:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Safe Sexting
Replies: 8
Views: 153

Re: Safe Sexting

Hi Roxfoxreal,

It sounds like you've come to a decision you're comfortable with! Since you're wanting to have a talk about defining the relationship, would you like some tools that could help you out with that conversation?
by Sam W
Sat Oct 13, 2018 9:54 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What needs to be present for you to feel comfortable being intimate with someone?
Replies: 0
Views: 157

What needs to be present for you to feel comfortable being intimate with someone?

For reference, I'm referring to intimacy in the broader sense, the way we do in this article: Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots . Often, we treat intimacy and sex as the same thing, when really intimacy can take so many forms. And sometimes it can be helpful to think about what you nee...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 13, 2018 8:39 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Problems getting off/Sensitivity
Replies: 5
Views: 229

Re: Problems getting off/Sensitivity

Hi Vesper, and welcome to Scarleteen! That sounds like it could be a frustrating issue, and it's definitely unusual to have erections last for that long. You mention having spoken to a healthcare provider before about losing your erection. Have you also spoken to one about the erections that last a ...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 13, 2018 8:03 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys
Replies: 7
Views: 317

Re: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys

Got it. Can I ask why it feels to you like you'd need to be a guy in order to be sexual with guys who look this way? I do think it's important to spend some time thinking about why you find gay men so attractive. Depending on what your answers to that are, it may be that you do have some unlearning ...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 12, 2018 10:38 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys
Replies: 7
Views: 317

Re: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys

Got it, so it does sound like a big part of this simply has to do with a certain type of guy (but not the only type of guy) you find attractive. When you want to be a guy in those moments, what is it, specifically, that you want? Is it to be able to engage in certain things sexually? To have a certa...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 12, 2018 10:12 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys
Replies: 7
Views: 317

Re: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys

So, it sounds like there are a few different things going on here. For starters, it may be that you simply find a lot of different looks or gender presentations attractive and that what makes you aroused on any given day can change. That's pretty common for folks who experience sexual attraction, si...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 12, 2018 9:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys
Replies: 7
Views: 317

Re: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys

Hi baekhyunah, thanks for making a new thread There are plenty of women, of various sexual orientations, who find they enjoy gay porn. So there's nothing inherently off about that. Can you tell me a bit more about why you feel you're attracted specifically to gay men? For instance, it sounds like yo...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 12, 2018 9:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pansexual ; Being sexually attracted to gay guys
Replies: 8
Views: 4994

Re: Pansexual ; Being sexually attracted to gay guys

Baekhyunah, please look at the comment Alice made above yours about how this area is for staff replies only. If you have questions, please make a new thread and we'll be happy to answer them.
by Sam W
Thu Oct 11, 2018 8:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is light bleeding after an EC normal?
Replies: 1
Views: 187

Re: Is light bleeding after an EC normal?

Hi andraste, Yes, unexplained or irregular vaginal bleeding or spotting is a common side effect of emergency contraception. You can read more about EC here: Emergency Contraception (Plan B or the Morning-After-Pill) It sounds like you may also want to read up on ways pregnancy can, and cannot, occur...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 09, 2018 9:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vaginal exam. Was this appropriate?
Replies: 24
Views: 516

Re: Vaginal exam. Was this appropriate?

Thanks for elaborating. If he isn't a trained OB-GYN, then his experience doing things like vaginal swabs is going to be far more limited than that of an OB-GYN, which may explain why he took longer. Also, given some of his comments (like how if you haven't had vaginal sex in awhile the next time ma...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 09, 2018 7:22 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What's "squirt"?
Replies: 4
Views: 297

Re: What's "squirt"?

You're welcome! So, it's more likely that the fluid you're seeing is coming from your urethra rather than your clitoris. If you look at the illustrations in this article, you can see that the urethra is located close to the clitoris, so fluid coming from the one may look like it's coming from the ot...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 09, 2018 7:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vaginal exam. Was this appropriate?
Replies: 24
Views: 516

Re: Vaginal exam. Was this appropriate?

Hi Reliablelake, I'm sorry this incident left you feeling uncomfortable. It can suck to feel like something "off" happened when you were in a really vulnerable position. In terms of the swab, it's hard for us to know without being there if there was a reason he may have taken longer (as yo...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 08, 2018 7:17 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What's "squirt"?
Replies: 4
Views: 297

Re: What's "squirt"?

Hi Jack, Squirting is a slang (and also more inclusive) term for "female ejaculation," or ejaculation that occurs for someone with a vagina. You can read about it in more detail here: Squirt: On Ejaculation . As for what you're feeling, there's no way for us to know what it is, although th...

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