I’ve been thinking about that. I didn’t experience overstimulation until the most recent time we had sex so there wasn’t a plan in place. My partner could tell that I looked tense so she asked if I was feeling well and I said yes, even though I was uncomfortable. I really wanted it to work out so I ...

I’m almost always down for non sexual forms of touch like hand holding, hugs, and cuddling. Those relieve stress for me. I’m a bit of a perfectionist but I’ve noticed I have a lot less sexual performance anxiety lately when I’m giving pleasure. I really enjoy it! It’s usually anxiety when she’s perf...

I think it’s been getting better. My anxiety over whether I’m doing sex “right” has been lowered because we communicate well. I still have some anxiety about being touched and I don’t really know what to do about that.

Thanks for this! A few of my friends haven’t had sex yet but they all started dating in middle school or high school. We’re all around 19-23 years old. I really want to talk to some other people I can relate to though. I asked one of my friends, who’s 23 and had her first sexual experience at 15, fo...

I don’t know how to stop judging myself for my anxiety. I’ve been in therapy for GAD and OCD since I was a kid. Having my first ever romantic and sexual experiences over the past year has brought so much joy and pleasure to my life, but uncertainty and not knowing what I’m doing is my biggest anxiet...

That might help. I’m going to a doctor who uses medications and natural treatments which I think will help because my body reacts badly to almost all of the meds I take. Hopefully she’ll understand that because I’ve been gaslit so many times

I think so. I’ve never been comfortable with a doctor before, besides maybe my primary care doctor and my plastic surgeons who did my breast reduction/lift. I feel like there’s a bit of a time crunch because I might only have time to see her once or twice before I go back to college 3 hours away.

That sounds good. The gyno I’m seeing this time is different from the one who did my first pelvic exam. I’ve never met her before. The reason I’m using different doctors is because the one I went to a couple months ago is in my college town, and the one I’m seeing in August is in my home state.

I have a lot of trouble making phone calls because of my anxiety disorder. I don’t know if I’d be able to do it.

Thank you for the response. My psychologist also recommended taking a much larger dose of Ativan (it’s prescribed and I would ask my doctor first). I’ve heard of people getting exams under sedation but I don’t like the idea of someone touching my vagina while I’m asleep and anesthesia has made me th...

Penetration with fingers during masturbation or sex has never been painful for me. It usually feels very pleasurable if I’m turned on, or a bit uncomfortable if I’m not in the mood, but it never hurts. I’ve also been using tampons since I was in high school and I’ve never had pain inserting them, ev...

I feel like it’s 50/50. We both find it fun and exciting to figure out what feels good and get to explore that for the first time together. But I also kind of wish we could skip ahead a few months to the part where we know what we’re doing and it’s not anxiety inducing anymore. The more we have sex,...

I need more friends so I can have them support me emotionally too. I don’t feel that close to most of my friends though. Like I’ll hang out with them at sorority events or parties but we don’t really see each other outside of that. I have a couple of closer friends but it seems like they don’t reall...

We communicate really well in person and I feel like I get to be 100% honest with her. But she rarely texts me first, and she’s forgotten to respond in some important situations. She also doesn’t text me back regularly when we’re apart on breaks. She has severe ADHD and just doesn’t feel the need to...

The person I already know (let’s call them Jack) is following me on Instagram already and I’m following them back. I could maybe DM Jack and ask if they ever want to meet up for lunch. I think that before I got back to campus, Jack invited some of the other student researchers in the chat to an ice ...

There are a few restaurants and a park in walking distance. I’ve texted the group chat a couple times but just to ask for things I need. I’ve never met most of the people in it. My relationship is a bit rocky right now because we’re getting to the end of the honeymoon phase (7 months in) and realizi...

Students will start coming back around the end of August. I don’t have a car and neither do my gf and our friend but I think there are local buses. I don’t really know where I’d go.

There’s only about 15-20 students on campus right now because it’s summer break. We’re in a small town. My girlfriend has the same friend as me on campus and that’s it.

The chat is on the app GroupMe. People don’t really text in it much unless they need to borrow something from another person in the dorm or ask a question. There’s this one person I met at a party a couple months ago that I’ve had some small talk conversations with if we’re in the dorm kitchen or la...

I’m so lonely right now. The only people I know on campus are my girlfriend and one of our friends. Most people have gone home for the summer but we have jobs. I want to reach out to new people but I have no idea where to start. There’s a group chat for summer workers but I don’t know how I’d reach ...

Thank you, I’ll check it out! It’s hard to determine what I’m actually not ready for vs what I want but just have a bit of anxiety I need to get over.

Thank you! I read from the list you linked and there are a few things that I know I really don’t want to try. But I don’t know how to handle the maybes. A recent example is that my girlfriend went down on me and it felt good physically but I don’t know if I was emotionally ready for that. Like I gen...

I’ve been dating my partner for 7 months and we both came into the relationship with no sexual experiences besides kissing and neither of us had dated anyone before. We started having sex after 4 months of dating so it’s still very new. How can I tell what my boundaries are and what I like if I’m so...

Those ideas sound good. I have a playlist that we usually listen to during sex. And maybe if she’s kissing or holding me while I’m putting the glove on, that could make it feel more sensual

Thanks for the advice! I have a lot of anxiety, especially because sex is new to me and I want to be responsible. I didn’t know you could get black gloves because I’ve only seen them in blue, but I’ll be on the lookout for them! She told me that I haven’t hurt her before while fingering, but sometim...