Hi CaitlinEve! Thanks for the ideas — I’ve heard of intimacy coordinators, but didn’t think to look them up for whether they worked on a given piece of media. Some of what I watch is older (1980s/90s) and probably doesn’t have intimacy coordinators, although that’s probably an indication to avoid th...

*Content/trigger warning: discusses concern that sexual abuse might be occurring in fictional TV shows/movies. No details or examples.* *(See content warning above)* Hi! I sometimes like to watch movies or TV with sexual scenes or themes, but am concerned whether sexual abuse might be happening behi...

Thanks! I’ll put it in ‘got questions? get answers?’ so everyone can comment.

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I want to ask a question about being worried that fictional media has sexual abuse behind-the-scenes, but I’m not sure where I should put it — so, it addresses the topic of sexual abuse, but doesn’t have details. Where should I put it?

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Content/trigger warning: catcalling, harassment. Hi… I got catcalled/harassed at a mall today, during a romantic date with the person I’m dating. Below is my documentation of the event (written for myself), written immediately afterwards. “At [name of mall], [person I’m dating] and I were approache...

Hi! Responding to KierC: Ah, that makes more sense, thanks for explaining. I think I haven’t been asking those questions because I’ve been mostly sharing simply for info/intimacy’s sake (expecting at them to respond with at most a roughly similar amount/depth of info, but not comforting or feeling l...

Hi! Responding to KierC: Thanks for the ideas about hugs, I think I’ll try whether I asking whether I can hug my friends as a greeting or farewell, and I like the idea of giving a reason for wanting to give a hug. I definitely agree about friends declining hugs being ok and people having different w...

Hi, Thanks, yes it is! :D That does make sense, I’ll try nonsexual self-touch. I would like to figure out a way to ask my friends about hugs. Thanks for the information about enmeshment theory — it’s helpful and interesting! (I’m a psychology and relationship nerd, so I enjoy/find helpful detail if ...

Hi! I’m back, and with good news and questions: Around a month ago, I asked the person who I talked about in my last post whether they’d like to go on a date, and they said yes! I’m very excited, but I keep missing them between dates (which feel quite far apart). I think I especially miss them becau...

Hi! I know this post has been up for a while, but I figured I might as contribute! I really like But You’ll Do by MALINDA (https://youtu.be/MSWSy9fpcpY?si=a63Jdf4JMhW0rnvk), it talks about a lot and is hard to summarize, but I like it as what feels like a song about strong but not enmeshing love. Pl...

More context/a question: I have a lot of mental health issues, this is just a main one. My friends are also autistic, all of them, which I think is totally fine (and cool sometimes), but useful context. Also, we’re all rather forgetful, which I’m also not sure how to bring up. I want to bring it up ...

(Content warning: Talks about feelings of social isolation, depression.) Hi, I’m autistic, and really, really need social interaction. I say need because when I haven’t had a good conversation (generally in person) in 2 or so days, I get really, severely, depressed, and it gets worse the longer it g...

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Thanks for the ideas — I wasn’t thinking of dates as a way to feel things out for some reason, (I keep thinking that you have to have your mind entirely made up on a person to ask them on a date, which I know isn’t true or useful but I keep thinking it).

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Great, thanks.

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In the User Control Panel, Specifically Board Preferences, tapping on Edit notification options goes to a blank, white page. If it matters, I am on mobile, specifically an iPad.

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Hi! It’s me, and of course, this means I have a new crush, who I’ll call K (she/her), she’s 16. I’ve known her for about two months now — we take the same classes together at school and we started talking after she emailed me a question. I really like her, she’s cool, smart, kind, considerate, and h...

*(Trigger warning/content warning: Talks about low weight, food, and medical problems)* Hi, First, I wanna say that I’m a skinny person, and so am welcome to any corrections or feedback on terminology, etc, that people have. For basically my whole life I’ve been low weight, but within the last year ...

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Haha, you’re now the second person I’ve introduced to Tennessee Ernie Ford.
Thanks for all the thoughts, I don’t have anything more to discuss on this specific topic. (I’m not sure what happens now, is the thread closed?)

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Hi Andy, Thanks for the article, I’ll take a look at it. Hmm, thank you for saying that. I think part of the problem might be that it feels like people don’t find me attractive, although I haven’t exactly gone and surveyed them. This specific person I had a crush on (which is friend A in my previous...

Hi, I’ve had a crush on this person for a while (maybe a year now). I told them about it maybe 6 months ago — they weren’t interested, although they didn’t say why specifically (I think they might have said that they don’t have a crush on me, but I don’t remember). They did not say explicitly that I...

(This post talks about dysphoria, I hope that’s ok/content warning) Hi, I feel like I’m physically unattractive to people who are attracted to feminine people, mainly because I’m a trans girl and have a lot of dysphoria. No one’s ever asked me out or said that I’m pretty to them — to be clear, I don...

Hi Andy,

Thank you, I wasn’t on yesterday because I saw A but didn’t really talk to them. I spent the entire class worrying/being sad about the situation, and an opportunity to talk never came up.

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Hi, thanks for the thoughts. I’m going to see A tomorrow, so hopefully we’ll be able to talk. I think my main worry is that they’ll think I’m punishing them in some way if I end the friendship. I’m also really scared of loss in general, and ending this friendship feels like it would be a big loss. R...

Hi, Apologies for this being a long post, this situation has evolved over around a year and has connections to basically every part of my life. I have 2 (maybe 3) close friends. For the sake of privacy, I’ll call the one I’m talking about in this post A. I’ve known A for about a year at this point. ...

Hello, sorry for this response taking a while.

Yeah, that makes sense.
I’m not in any sort of rush, so I’m just going to take things slow.
I really appreciate the advice, I’ll probably be back with more questions in a bit.