Hi Soph22, From what I understand, you do want to be more vulnerable with your friends first. Have you thought about sharing these thoughts around vulnerability around them to start with? And the fears you have? Like both Heather and Sam said, everyone is vulnerable, including your friends, and they...

Hi SillyMcGoof, There could be a couple of things that might be affecting this. One could be masturbating in the same way. Switching things up and trying some new things might add some intensity back into it. Another thing could be having a lot on the mind. Is there anything in your life that is cha...

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It seems like ammonium lactate is safe to use and does not affect birth control but I would also check in with your doctor to be sure.

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Like Heather said, I think that taking another test will give some reassurance. It seems unlikely but I think seeing the test result can be helpful. It also sounds like this might be giving you some anxiety. Would it help to share some resources around managing pregnancy anxiety?

Hi tinygoblin, I do have a couple questions just to clarify: is this your first experience with polyamory? And is polyamory something you are interested in exploring for yourself? I do want to say right away that you don't have to be attracted to a ton of folks to be polyamorous. I'll be honest, I'm...

Hello! First of all, I just want to say that you know your body better than you might think you do. I can understand your frustration though with trying to get answers - it took me years to get a diagnosis for a chronic illness because a couple doctors told me originally that my pain was normal. It ...

Hi anonym05, I just want to start off by saying that everyone has different ways of experiencing pleasure. Something that might feel good for one person can be not good for another person. And fwiw, you don't need to buy a bunch of stuff to figure it out but I would recommend one thing that isn't ex...

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When trying something like that for the first time, soreness the next day is pretty normal. I would say to hold off until you're not as sore, so as not to injure yourself. I also would recommend using more lube - it typically can help with soreness as your body gets used to it!

Hello! I know you said you identify as aroace and I just want to say that it is totally normal to not have as high of a sex drive. I can also understand how frustrating that can be when everyone else seems to have a higher interest in sex. From what you've expressed, you'd like to be able to experie...

Hi MissBeehive, It seems like you have a lot of questions about the potentials that could happen but let's start at step one. I first want to ask if you have romantic feelings for this person. Do you want to ask this person out? If that's the case, then great! I think you have a lot going on in your...

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I actually did not not know the answers to these questions but this advice article might be able to help answer your questions:

https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... jaculation

Let me know if you have any further questions!

Hi Whispermae, I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in. I first wanted to offer some validation for how you're feeling - how your psychiatrist handled the situation was not okay. And I also know how hard it is to find a new doctor so I can understand why you might not want to switch doctors again. You ...

Hi Raffles, It seems like even though you want to let it go, there's a part of you that does want to bring it up - especially that confidentiality aspect. It's work to speak up about things but sometimes it brings about more relief than not saying anything. I know Carly mentioned something about may...

Hi, I'm going to start with sharing this article that helps with facts and assessing actual risks: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/the_pregnancy_panic_companion It also links to other resources as well and can really help to reduce any anxiety you're feeling. I'm also here if you have any ...

Hi! I hope it's okay that I'm jumping into this thread to answer your questions! You are right - it is totally normal to have vaginal discharge. And there is nothing unhygienic about putting your underwear in the wash with all of your other clothes. It all has to get washed somehow! For your second ...

Hi! I know that this can be frustrating, but also you are not alone in this. In fact other people have reached out with similar issues - this advice article actually covers some points that may be helpful for you to try: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_cannot_insert_anything_into_my_vagi...

I actually think I knew you meant curt so it's all good! Breaches in confidentiality are not okay and I'm so sorry that happened to you. I could understand why you declined the conference. Do you feel comfortable expressing to them that this was not okay (if you haven't)? Also, you said the union re...

Hi! It makes sense that you are frustrated. From what I understand, you are frustrated with not being able to use a certain method for masturbation? Masturbation can happen in a variety of different ways. Some people can come one way but not others. Or maybe it takes trying out different methods. Th...

Hi fledermaus, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Trauma is such a complicated thing and one symptom of that is memory loss. If I could offer my own personal experience - I also have holes in my memory during a period when I was living with an abuser. I found that over time, bits and pieces wi...

Hi amazingwater, I'm so sorry that you had those experiences. Healing is not linear and it's hard to know where to begin. I have a couple of previous advice articles that might provide some good insight. One advice article lists further resources that you can look into: https://www.scarleteen.com/ar...

Hello! I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here. I think what Heather is trying to say is that if there was a hole in the condom, it would be very noticeable and you would see fluid dripping. You mentioned that sometimes the condom seems stretched out or dangling. Condoms do come in all sizes and h...

Hi Lyle, I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in - I think that asking to knock is a good place to start and to gauge your mother's response. It's not easy to have these conversations, especially when your mom has reacted badly in the past to you doing something with your body that she doesn't agree wi...

Hi aya, I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in as well. I really appreciate you being vulnerable and sharing this here. I wanted to ask something to help clarify - you had mentioned earlier in the thread that your therapist showed no judgement with your attraction. Is judgement something you're worrie...

Hi Raffles, I appreciate you sharing this information. I just wanted to jump in and say that I'm really glad that the union rep is willing to help out and it sounds like there might be the beginnings of a plan to create change going forward. In terms of what you're going to do next, definitely take ...