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(Woah's question continued) Even though I am on the pill and he washes his hands before hand, he almost has a panic attack every time that he fingers me. Also, every time that I feel the least bit icky and say anything about it he makes me promise him over and over that I’m not pregnant. I think...

There's a lot I want to say, but I need to get a hugely important piece out there as soon as possible. If you are thinking about self-injury, suicide, or hurting someone else there is immediate help available. I want you to stay safe so we can talk more about what is going on with you, so if you are...

Erin's question continued And I said it wasn't that I didn't want to, but that I should at least wait until I get on birth control or something. And he started begging, so I said we could do anything except for that. And then he told me nothing else would be good enough, and got really angry and...

HurtandUsed's question continued He then went and put his hands down my pants and started touching me there. I wanted to say no, but I couldn't because I was afraid he would get mad or break up with me. He then went and grabbed my hand and put my hand down his pants. I pulled my hand away but he...

Hi Lucy! I think you may need to give yourself a break. It sounds like have a good partner, good relationship, and healthy attitude towards sex. You've educated yourself and are practicing safe sex (I assume, from your post). This is more than many young women can say for themselves! Good for you!...

Unless you're masturbating with something that isn't sanitary -- such as a toy or object that can't really be sanitized, or with unwashed hands -- masturbation can't cause disease or infection, just like you, say, putting your fingers in your mouth isn't going to cause disease or infection unless...

You will need to tell new partners about a sexually transmitted infection you have or have had, particularly one like human papillomavirus (HPV) where condoms reduce the risks of transmission, but not as well as they do for other kinds of infections. Putting someone knowingly at risk of an infection...

If you say nothing, it's unlikely he'll know. The bodies of people with vaginas really don't change when they have any kind of sex, unless they become pregnant or contract an infection. Vaginal sex can wear a hymen or partial hymen away more, but so can and do a lot of other things, and at your age...

If you feel like -- and you seem to be very clearly saying you do -- that YOU need to hold off on sex with someone new, for YOU, that's really all you need to know. You're the only person waiting needs to be okay with. If it's not okay with anyone else, too bad for them. Some not-as-yet boyfriend...

I can tell you with no reservations that masturbation did not and cannot: • Cause hair loss • Cause any sort of stammering or other speech impairments • Have any effect whatsoever on your fertility Really, it won't. It can't. If it could, more than 95% of the population would be bald, infertile and...