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Feeling like you didn't "get anything in return" sounds very troubling to me. That strikes me as a huge deal, and like something that's probably bigger and about more than sex being a first-time for you and not for him. Someone with partners before you isn't limited in their ability to do their part...

Intimacy is often awkward. And that isn't a bad thing. In some ways, I'd even say it's always awkward, in the sense that it's never really something that's exactly easy, especially when we're just starting to get intimate with someone, rather than when we have been for a long time. Getting and being...

antogone68's question continued: I think this was probably for a number of reasons: being busy at university and perhaps having a naturally low sex drive after the honeymoon period of a relationship. However, I also think my sexual assault had something to do with it. I still find physical intimacy...

There are a few things you mentioned here that I suspect you wanted to have addressed in depth, but I think it's really important that for right now, I do what I can to help you with what seems the most critical. I think it's crucial you get some help as quickly as you can, and I don't want my words...

PlaygroundPushover's question continued: I'm confused about what happens after he's ejaculated. Preferably I'd be using a condom but like I said I'm on the pill and have been since before we started going out. We've both been for STI screenings because we know you can catch STIs through other forms...

helovesme31's question continued: He used to smoke weed but he stopped cause I didn't approve. I'm thankful he made that change but now I feel pressured into having sex with him. I lost my virginity to a big ass sleazy guy and then kept having sex with other men, they really were mean telling me I...

Good on you for aiming for social grace even when other people are being clumsy. You probably already know this, but it's going to happen in your life that people are going to have feelings for you that you don't share; have interest in doing things with you that you don't have an interest in...

I want to first tell you a few things you should know are true. Whatever it turns out your sexuality and relationships are like, whatever it turns out you want from them, they're about much, much more than your abuse. Because we've been abused doesn't mean either or both of those things will be all...

The way you framed this is tricky, because our sexuality isn't separate from our minds and can't be separated from our minds, just like our bodies can't be separated from our minds. In fact, our mind is where most of sexuality really is and is what drives it the most. We can't say something is...

Because you don't want to have any kind of sex or a given kind of sex now, in a given relationship, or don't feel ready now or in this relationship does not mean you won't ever. There are many, many kinds of sex -- not just intercourse, and sex also includes masturbation, having sex by ourselves...