questioning

Here's the short answer: personally, what I call it is just being alive. The world can be a really beautiful place, and so can all of the people in it. When we're observant, open, and not feeling horribly bitter or distraught about ourselves or our world, we tend to notice and appreciate beauty...

The way you framed this is tricky, because our sexuality isn't separate from our minds and can't be separated from our minds, just like our bodies can't be separated from our minds. In fact, our mind is where most of sexuality really is and is what drives it the most. We can't say something is...

What's it mean to be questioning, why would you or someone else identify that way, how do you deal in the process and how might you answer the question?

I hear you that this is a tough situation to be in, turbo! It certainly may seem like the reverse of what most people face when they are questioning their sexual orientation. However, I assure you that it is actually much more common than one might think. For all the great resources there are about...

Feeling uncomfortable or trapped by one’s own body is a really hard feeling to manage. I’m really glad that even though it was a challenge you were able to put some words to your feelings, and I hope that maybe this response can help you feel a little less isolated in those feelings. The first thing...

Leahcar's question continued, This must sound so strange but I'm finally being honest with myself and need to get it out there for someone else to know about before I burst. I won't tell anyone I know about these feelings, but they just frustrate me all the time. It makes me so depressed because I...

Our sexual orientation is about who we do feel attracted to, sexually and emotionally. It's not about who we're not frustrated with, who we are not attracted to, who might make do or what someone else's orientation is. The organization Avert does a really nice job of laying out what sexual...

This is as fine a place to ask as any. :) You know, this is the case with most people with any kind of emotional maturity who knows that people are more than two-dimensional and sex is about people, not appearances or our ideas about people based on appearance. Of course, we can look at someone in a...

Hey there, Hartley. We DO know -- experientially and statistically speaking -- that young adults do tend to be less selective when it comes to their attractions and/or partners than older adults. Why is that? That's where we don't have such solid answers. By all means, you guys do have a lot more...