identity

Hi Sam! This is a great question. I love it for two reasons: first, because learning about feminism seems like a pretty great use for the internet, but far more importantly because you’re questioning the things you are reading and looking for additional perspectives so you can make your own mind up…

The number of people you choose to sleep with isn’t the crux of sexual liberation. People who choose to have sex with fewer (or no) people shouldn’t be ashamed, and neither should people who choose to have multiple partners. It’s all about the choice - having the agency to sleep with as many or as few people as you please. It doesn’t make you naïve or boring or a slut or a whore; it’s just a choice that you’ve made, and that in itself is sexually liberating.

Hi Parvati, It’s great to hear that you’re trying to be a good ally, and doing some of the self-examination and learning that comes with that! Since you helpfully broke your question down into three parts, I’ll go through them one by one. 1. Is gender really only a social construct? The short answer…

When you identify as queer but enter into relationships with heterosexual people, or those with of a different gender to your own, it can feel odd to consolidate these two parts of your identity. You’re not straight, but society can perceive you that way – where do you fit in, exactly?

We hope every time you open up to someone about your truth they respond with love and kindness. But we also want to make sure you’re prepared in case they don’t, and give you some practical strategies and tools to look after yourself if that’s what happens. With that in mind, here’s a new, totally non-exhaustive, step by step guide to coming out.

I can’t definitively say whether you’re bisexual or not, because your own sexual orientation is something only you can know for sure. But I can throw out some thoughts and ideas that might make it easier for you to come to more of an understanding about yourself and your orientation. A great first…

Is “Latinx” just some weird made-up thing from the internet? How do marginalized communities reshape language to define themselves?

Al reflects on what it’s like to navigate having a queer identity while visiting their family’s homeland, a small, little-known Caribbean country in South America.

Think you might be asexual, or just curious about the ace community? Alaina Leary has the details.

As we change the narrative on disability and sexuality, we need to acknowledge that disabled asexuals exist.