fingering

Why can't I feel anything during manual sex?

Rainbowgirl65 asks:

I have been fingered/fingered myself and I KNOW its supposed to feel GOOD. But, when I've gotten it done/done it myself I CAN'T FEEL ANYTHING. No pleasure, pain, NOTHING! I mean yeah I can feel there's something inside of me, but it's not like anything. I don't know, is there something wrong with me? Why is it like this?!

Is there a risk from dry pre-ejaculate?

Eric asks:

If I had somehow (which I don't think I did) got pre-cum on my fingers, and then immediately wiped it off, and it was completely dry, and I then poked my girlfriend a few hours later, what would be the chances of pregnancy?

I don't want to give him a handjob back: what do I do?

Anonymous asks:

I am in a bit of a pickle. I am ok with my boyfriend fingering me, but I never tell him to, or even elude to it. But I am uncomfortable with giving him hand jobs. I mean, we will be lying down on the couch, and he will just start sliding his hands down to unbutton my pants. I won't resist (unless I am on my period, or am not in a sexual mood) but feel awkward when he then wants me to give him a handjob. How do I tell him this, because even though I do enjoy him fingering me, and I think he likes it too, I don't want to give him hand jobs, and don't want our relationship to become one wayed...what do I do?

Gloves for manual sex?

helping myself asks:

When my boyfriend fingers me, does he still need to wear a glove if he washed his hands?? Anyways,if he didn't masturbate with himself, why is there need for a glove? And, when I finger myself, do I need to wear a glove or is washing sufficient?

Phone Sex and Other Stuff

TommyGirl asks:

I am 18 years old and my ex-boyfriend and I have been having phone sex. I need to know why it hurts after I finger myself. And then there is the discharge. I have been discharging for 2 or 3 years and it is white and clear sometimes and I don't know what it is.

I am going to the gynecologist soon, and I don't know what to tell her.

Sex isn't appealing, but I want to be close to my partner.

think_positive_and_smile asks:

I'm 16 and have been with my boyriend, also 16, for 5 months. He has only ever fingered me as I don't really like the thought of other sexual activities too appealing but feel I am ready for sex as it is a way to be as physically close to him as I am emotionally.

My only problem is is that my opening is really tight and can fit about 2 fingers maximum-- sorry this sounds disgusting? His friends tell me about his "massive penis" and I'm scared he won't be able to fit it in. We have spoken about sex and both agreed that we want to do it, but now I'm just nervous that it won't go as I'd always expected it because I'm too tight? Please help.

Can you get pregnant from kissing?

alana asks:

I was french kissing this very cute boy and I was wondering if french kissing or any kind of kissing can get you pregnant? If a boy puts his finger into your vagina, will you get pregnant?

Can dry hands = pregnancy?

RJ asks:

Could you still get a girl pregnant if you had dry precum on your hands and then fingered her? I was sure my hands were dry but I'm still worried. I urinated a few minutes before I fingered her and I can't remember clearly if I had washed my hands, I'm worried because I MIGHT have a bit precum in my pants and have accidentally touched it. It has been 2 weeks and she had her normal period for the last 5 days. I really want to know if she could get pregnant by this. I'm also worried about her too...I'd really appreciate your help...

Pain from Fingering

Evan asks:

I'm a 18 year old male still a virgin. One day my girlfriend and i were fooling around, and i started fingering her. She said it hurts so i didn't do it any more.. Then a few days later she said that it was hurting down there and maybe there was like a cut, I didn't know what to tell her. Then today she called me and said that there is like a piece of skin covering her opening and that there was a cut like a + on it. What's Wrong? She's scared and I'm worried. Will it heal/Go away?

Is she a virgin? What would you call it?

cookiemonsterz asks:

Hello,
I am a mother of a young 14-year-old girl. Recently my daughter approached me with a question, and I wasn't sure about my answer. She has a boyfriend, and they have been together for 6 months. She told me that he had asked her to have sex and she said no. He later asked her a couple of times to let him finger her, since it wasn't sex. She finally gave in and let him do it to make him happy. She said that the three times he did it they were both fully clothed, and he just went down her pants. She got scared the third time, because he was hurting her and he wouldn't stop and did it harder. when he finished she said he had a little blood on his finger. She then went to the bathroom and told me that a lot of blood came down and it felt like her period but it wasn't. My daughter wanted to know if she was still a virgin, and my heart was aching. I told her she was, but not quite sure about the whole incident. She apparently told me that most girls are letting their boyfriends do that because it's not sex and they stay virgins. I really need your expert advise so I can convince her about the truth. Thank you, and I know this is an ongoing action in teens today, and they really don't realize it's playing with fire.

Am I ready & without rubbing my clitoris, will it even feel good if I am?

Madison D. asks:

I have been with my boyfriend for about three months and I am not sure if I'm ready to have sex. How do you really know if you're ready? We have talked about sex before and he wants to do it but I'm just not sure if I want to or not. We have done other things and have also talked about those and if it felt good for us. It was just a little bit awkward talking about it with him at first, then I got more comfortable. He's not pressuring me into doing it, I just want to make sure I'm absolutely ready because I don't want to regret it.

There is another question I would like to ask. If you have been masturbating for quite some time (by rubbing my clit), and I mean a long time, will I only be able to get pleasure from rubbing or will having sex feel good too? I have read somewhere that you can get used to one thing and only be able to feel pleasure from it. My boyfriend has fingered me, it hurt a little at first but then it didn't. It's not that I hated it, but I also didn't get pleasure from it. I'm scared that I won't be able to get pleasure from anything else other than rubbing. Please help.

Painful fingering

Mrzskllngtn asks:

My boyfriend and I were feeling very heated last night, so he decided to finger me. I was fine with that, obviously, because he asked if I wanted it and I said yes. We've decided we want to have sex but are both worried about the pain. And last night, he wanted to explore, and I told him go ahead. He tried to stick his finger in "the hole" and it hurt, very badly. I'm a pretty tight girl, and he had trouble getting even his pointer finger in. Now, it's the next morning and it's still a little achy. Did I get my "cherry popped"? Is my first time with him going to hurt badly because I'm so tight? I'm nervous, help!

first intercourse: a pain for us both

Adam asks:

Me and my girlfriend were both virgins and just had a go at intercourse for the first time. Unfortunately, her vagina is really tight and is pulling the foreskin on my penis back causing pain for me and also for her. I've fingered her a few times to help loosen it up, and wore a condom to help with the lubrication, but it's just really painful. Is there something wrong with my penis, or just too much wanking?

Is my hymen blocking my orgasm?

worriedlilchickedy asks:

My boyfriend and I started having sex a couple months ago. Before that, I was a virgin. Since then, we have done it about 4 or 5 times. Well, tonight, he was fingering me and while he was I felt slight pain but it went away pretty quickly. Afterwards, I realized I bled some. It wasn't like period blood though, it just looked like regular blood. Is there any way possible that he could have just now "popped my cherry" even though we have done it a few times before? I thought that happened the very first time. also, is it possible for a female to have an orgasm if her cherry isnt popped? We talked about the reason I haven't had an orgasm and we have been trying to find the right spot, but after this incident...I was thinking maybe that was the reason I haven't orgasmed.

Shaving required

Sylvia asks:

My boyfriend said he would love to finger me. But there is no pressure. Thing is he wants me to shave that area to do it.

I have no idea how to do that! with a razor? Wax!? I have no clue. We've been going out for three months so is that too soon? And what if (if i let him) when he does it discharge or blood comes out? That would be really embaressing. How do I guide him to do what feels good and not what hurts? I shouldn't but I'm really paranoid about my body... and my legs and bum have the worst stretch marks on them ever. I don't think he'll mind at all because apparently I'm perfect. But it would be the first time we did something like that and what if he is shocked with how I look without clothes!? I like him so much and I want to be able to let him to do that to me because he said he would love to but how the hell do I shave down there without leaving marks or stubble?