I get really really wet! It's really gross. My boyfriend wants to go down on me and finger me, but I don't want him to think I'm gross. Is it normal to be so wet? Will he think it's ok?

I have fingered my girlfriend quite a few times now. I can only get one finger up there and she never seems to react, just stands there as if nothing is going on. Am I doing something wrong?

Is it a valid concern to be worried about my boyfriend washing his hands before he fingers me? I know he should if he has semen or pre-cum on his hands, but as a guy he hardly washes his hands. You know how some guys are and if I tell him he still won't do it. Could I get infections or could he spread germs that have been on his hands this way? I know the vagina keeps itself pretty clean, so should I do anything about it? Thanks a lot.

My girlfriend likes being fingered really hard. She likes two fingers as far as I can get them then to push up and pull out as hard as I possibly can against the bone. I absolutely hate this. It scares me that I might hurt her. So is okay to be that hard? will I hurt anything?

If you're due to start your period and your boyfriend fingers you, can fingering stop you from coming on your period or make you a little late?

Is it okay for a man to finger you?

My boyfriend fingered me for the first time, and at first it kind of hurt. I want to know what was causing that to happen, and what we could do next time for it to feel better.

Hi Scarleteen community,

Me and my girlfriend are super scared. But after reading a lot of stuff "online" it seems like our problems is solved, but not quite. This began almost last week when I finger my girlfriend. (we are both virgins). We are scared to death now she could be pregnant. I remembered inserting my whole finger into her vagina and I don't remember if I had any precum on my finger. (Definitely not cum). But the precum could be very minimal and If there was any I would of probably whipped it on myself before entering her vagina because I really do respect her and I would never ever want to do anything to get her pregnant because we are both not ready for that yet. Is there a minimal chance that she could be pregnant? I hear answers all over the internet from "50/50" to "1 in a million if the precum was less than 1 inch", but I still am not sure, and she won't be getting her period for another 3 weeks. Is been really frustrating so far... and today she spotted "1 drop" or blood on her panties. She kept telling me that it was no more than "1 drop", could this be a sign to anything? And again I searched on internet and all these answers saying "she's pregnant", "1 drop means nothing". Can anyone give me a clear answer? is really no more than 1 drop of blood. Please...any help will be great, me and my girlfriend is having a really difficult time right now.

P.S: I also heard pregnancy test could tell us the result right away? If so where can I buy them at?

Thank you everyone's help!! Any help IS appreciated..

-fender12345

Okay, I am 14 years old and my boyfriend is 16. I'm a virgin and we were trying to have sex. I'm so scared that I'm pregnant because I keep thinking that there was sperm on his finger when he fingered me. I just finished my period about two days ago. Even if there wasn't sperm on his finger, I keep thinking that there might have been a hole in the condom! I can't even think of anything else! I am so scared and the pills is over $39.99 and I can't talk to my mom about it because she will make a big deal about it cause I sneaked out today to see him. What do i do?

This may sound very stupid. My boyfriend fingered me twice the day after my period ended last month. I never gave him a hand-job and he says no pre-cum ever came out of his penis when he got an erection. He washed his hands thoroughly before I came to his house and he took a shower. The last time he ejaculated was 24 hours ago when he masturbated in his bed. The first time he fingered me was about an hour after I arrived at his house (mostly just heavy petting, no penetration). The second time was about 2 hours after the first time. He went to the bathroom and washed his hands before this. This time he stuck his finger in about 2 inches for a few seconds. He also ate me out for a few seconds. I got what seemed to be my normal period except for the fact that breasts hurt for 2 weeks beforehand instead of the usual 1 week and my period was about a day short. My breasts stopped hurting once my period started.
Could I have become pregnant from any dry sperm that was left on his bed sheets from him masturbating the night before?

I'm a nearly 16 year old woman who needs help...A while ago and recently, my boyfriend fingered me vaginal to anal to vaginal, but not sex. I've recently read that you can get serious vaginal infections from passing bacteria from the anus to the vagina. Am I OK to leave it be because it wasn't sex, or should I still get it checked out, just to be on the safe side?

My boyfriend and I have been have been kinda sexual active for about 6 months. No sex, just playing with each other. Now since he is the first guy I've done anything of this sort with and with him I'm the first girl, I expected some pain and tightness when he first started out fingering me. However, now I've loosened up more, I still feel a slight discomfort type pain along with pleasure. I can try and ignore this but it makes me tense up and he accidentally hurts me more. We have tried most things like kissing during it, and many different positions but I still have that pain. I just want to know what this pain is and how I can stop it. Thank you for your time :)

I have been fingered/fingered myself and I KNOW its supposed to feel GOOD. But, when I've gotten it done/done it myself I CAN'T FEEL ANYTHING. No pleasure, pain, NOTHING! I mean yeah I can feel there's something inside of me, but it's not like anything. I don't know, is there something wrong with me? Why is it like this?!

If I had somehow (which I don't think I did) got pre-cum on my fingers, and then immediately wiped it off, and it was completely dry, and I then poked my girlfriend a few hours later, what would be the chances of pregnancy?

I am in a bit of a pickle. I am ok with my boyfriend fingering me, but I never tell him to, or even elude to it. But I am uncomfortable with giving him hand jobs. I mean, we will be lying down on the couch, and he will just start sliding his hands down to unbutton my pants. I won't resist (unless I am on my period, or am not in a sexual mood) but feel awkward when he then wants me to give him a handjob. How do I tell him this, because even though I do enjoy him fingering me, and I think he likes it too, I don't want to give him hand jobs, and don't want our relationship to become one wayed...what do I do?