Why do men freeze up when you ask them about watching porn movies?

I have heard two different stories; one, that using a vibrator can do no harm, and two, that using a vibrator can do worlds of harm! I have heard that using one will desensitize the area and make sex with a real person totally unenjoyable and dissatisfying. Which theory is true?

I have a question about anal sex. I hear from a lot of people that it's okay as long as your safe about it and consider health risks etc. But I've heard from many friends that it is shunned from society because it's just wrong to insert a penis there...that's where bowel movements are made! I've tried it once with my long time monogomous boyfriend of 2.5 years and it can be such a nice experience; just as nice as your first vaginal experience. I want to understand why it can be such a big deal...it would make me feel much better if I knew what was actually wrong with it.

I look at this way: if you've never tried sushi before, and you look at it and think that it's gross, you'll never try it. It's like that with anal sex. If you look at it and you've never tried it before, you might think it looks gross or isnt a nice experience...but you'll never know unless you've tried it. Is that in anyway close to how I think about it? I wanna know why it's such a bad thing! THANK YOU!

Hi, I'm 17 and I live in Asia. I have been feeling a lot of intense feelings these few days. I want to know about sex and I've tried masturbation twice, though only to the stage of ... the need to pee and the movement of muscles at my clitoris and vagina (I don't know who to describe it very accurately, I hope you understand) and a bit wet. I know we get this sexual feelings when we get older but I can't help feeling quite uneasy about it, as if I've done something wrong and I shouldn't have tried masturbation (although I've read your article about it). People around me NEVER talked about it. I don't know if it's they don't talk about it at all, or they haven't done it. I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I can't concentrate on my studies (I'm a student) and I feel uneasy. I felt this kind of feelings before but not as intense as this and it didn't last this long.

What's wrong with me? What should I do?

Please I really need to know about this. As I live in Asia, there's almost no way else I'm going to get the answer. Thanks!!

In my home, religion was big. Some things were discussed other things weren't. Premarital was a big issue and I was told never to do it, but we never talked about masturbation or anything like that. So is it wrong to do it?

I'm 20 years old, and the other day, I went to the gynecologist to have my first pelvic exam. Upon learning that I was a virgin, my gyn told me that she would be unable to perform an internal exam on me. Needless to say, I was kind of shocked, but later, I called a friend, and she told me that she had had the same experience. In her case, the nurse practitioner told her that performing an internal exam would be like her "paying to take away her virginity."

Now I'm not American, and in my culture, there is still a strong association between the hymen and virginity. What I wanted to know was if American gynecologists would balk at the idea of performing an internal examination on a virgin. Also, isn't it important to get a Pap smear done even if you aren't sexually active and probably haven't contracted HPV?