arousal

It's really tough to say. Ultimately, the only person who can know for sure if they've reached orgasm is the person who is having one. For sure, often people's expectations of orgasm can be off-base, especially if they're primarily based on fictional depictions of orgasm. While sometimes orgasm can...

The most common reasons for what you are experiencing would be: • Beginning vaginal entry before you are really, truly, fully aroused. As in, aroused to the point where you are very nearly begging your partner to begin intercourse because you just can't wait another minute for it. THAT is the point...

Humans are mostly made of water, and vaginal fluid is most certainly water-based. This means it can evaporate under normal earth conditions. This is normal. More normal than that is the fact that even when woman are sexually aroused, they may not make enough vaginal lubrication to make prolonged...

Here's the thing: when a person with a vagina is sexually aroused, in general, yheir vagina self-lubricates (becomes more wet), their clitoris and parts of the vulva become more erect, and the vaginal opening and vaginal canal relax and expand (become looser). So, to ask to be wet AND "tight" is a...

You can tell your partner that he's incredibly misinformed. You might want to check out my answer to another question about vaginal tightness. But the short answer here is that your partner is woefully confused about sexual anatomy and arousal. The vagina does not permanently change due to inserting...

Hey Dan: thanks for the props. :) ED drugs really aren't intended for younger men, nor for the occasional problem with ED. Rather, they're intended for a very persistent and ongoing problem, over time, and for older men who have ED for physical reasons due to aging or another medical condition (like...

As I'm sure you've discovered, porn rarely answers one's questions about sex in a very thorough fashion. A big part of that is probably because porn is fiction and fantasy portrayed in a way that will (supposedly) appeal to the audience. In real life, people don't have the (dubious) "benefit" of...

For most people, whether we're talking about sexual orientation or something else, trying to live a life as anything but yourself is more painful than living a life working to come to peace with something about yourself that you or others are uncomfortable with. Really, if you read the stories of...

Hey there, Naptha. You're right: while masturbation teaches us plenty about our own sexual responses, likes and dislikes, it IS very different from partnered sex. To boot, seems you're finding out one of the lessons a lot of folks often aren't prepared for with any new partner, and that's that with...

It strikes me as a bit odd to consider upping the ante to vaginal intercourse when as things are now, you're not feeling sexually satisfied, and when you also express strong reservations about it. I'd suggest that before you step it up to add a sexual activity which carries greater risks -- of...