Pleasure & Sexual Response

I want to first reassure you that I’m sure you’re not doing anything wrong, and that this isn’t about something being wrong with you. That includes whatever level of desire — or frequency of desire — you find you have for sex in general or with a partner. I also don’t think this is probably just…

Hayley, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing the crappy feelings of ‘not being enough’, or even of someone potentially being ‘bored’ of you. It can be extremely painful to have those thoughts and I think it would be best for you to do what you can to start entertaining them as little as possible. It’s…

A guide to getting pleasure and fulfillment out of life from places besides sex or romance.

I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling insecure in your sexual relationship. It’s understandable that you’d feel a bit uncertain about your girlfriend’s enjoyment of sex since it sounds like you aren’t getting much, if any, honest feedback from her and are worried her responses during sex aren’t genuine…

I’d like to start by addressing your use of the word “sex.” Sex can mean anything from masturbation (aka “solo sex”), to manual sex (“fingering”), to oral sex, to anal sex, and of course to what many people mean when they just say “sex” (and what I’m guessing you’re referring to in your question)…

MojMycha’s question continued: We’ve been together nearly a year and I am his first partner, both romantically and sexually. He only recently discovered he can feel sexual pleasure (besides that brought by orgasm) and he has never felt it in orgasm. I’ve brought him to orgasm by blow jobs and hand…

First off, I’m glad to hear that your relationship in general, including your sex life, sounds like it’s going well right now. That’s certainly a great place to start from! There’s no type of sex or orgasm that’s “better” or more appropriate for a certain point in a relationship than another. So if…

You know, one of the neatest, most interesting things about sex from my perspective, is that what people do and don’t enjoy is so diverse. One person’s least favorite sexual activity is another person’s favorite. I think that’s really cool. All of our bodies, sexualities and situations are so…

Hi feministconundrums, Genital sensitivity – and sometimes sensitivity of some other body parts, too – is common for many people after orgasm. The length of time after an orgasm that it can or does last varies from person to person, experience to experience and it can often vary with age too. It…

It sounds like you’re really struggling with these expectations you have for yourself. Let’s see if we can’t help you feel a little better about yourself. First, let me see if I can’t put this in perspective a little by clearing up a misconception. The average time it takes someone with a penis to…