Sex & Sexuality

There's a lot to unpack with sexual choking. Here's some science, including some real dangers, and some guidance, to help anyone make informed decisions to ensure safer, healthy, consensual and mutually-enjoyable experiences.

I believe that sexual pleasure with someone else can only truly be found through vulnerability, through the radical act of maybe not knowing, in being willing to potentially even embarrass yourself in the pursuit of something greater.

Thanks for your question and for sharing so much with us. You ended your question with "What am I doing wrong?" I wanted to start by inviting you to consider all the many, many things you are doing to make your life better: being open with the people in your life about your identity, going to...

Know how sometimes when something is wonky with a laptop or a phone, we need to shut it all down and give the machine a full reboot?

How does a person explore sexuality, sexual identity or sexual interactions without feeling awkward? There are loads of things you can do!

Britain’s Quintimacy is a space that intends to cultivate queer intimacy through trauma-informed and embodied connection. In an interview with Scarleteen, founder Beck Thom talks about their working frameworks, sex ed in the UK, what they do at Quintimacy and the need to better educate people, including children and teenagers, about trauma and consent.

When it comes to our bodies and feeling good in them, it's usually better to listen and respond to what they are telling us than to tell them what to do.

I'm so sorry that you have been in this situation, Michael. It sounds stressful and heartbreaking. Let's see if I can help a little. Before I say anything else, I want to strongly suggest that you do not have any sex, of any kind, with anyone, that you do not also very much want yourself. It's no...

The end of sex can feel sudden and shocking. It can set off other uncomfortable feelings that might be related to other issues or memories. But by incorporating aftercare into your sex practices, those feelings can be diminished or alleviated. Not only is aftercare beneficial to your overall pleasure, it’s an important aspect of ethical and respect-based sex.

First off, you aren't alone in being turned off by "hardcore BDSM" or in feeling like you aren't really seeing a wider range of nuanced depictions of dominant/submissive relationships with which you might identify more easily. It's true that there's a mainstream image of d/s dynamics that many...