Disability

Having a disability doesn’t mean not having sexuality, but you’d never know that from the messaging out there. Here’s sex, relationships and bodies information for people with a range of disabilities, from neurodiversity to chronic illness to mobility or cognitive disability. Nothing about us without us: our disability information is almost always written by people with disabilities themselves.

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A Simple Guide to Sexualizing Your Mobility Aids

  • Imogen Mchugh
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I’m 23, and grew up in a relatively conservative environment. I’m Black and adopted, live in a rural community, had catholic school education for 14 years, and am chronically ill with Crohn’s Disease...

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I really want to have sex, but I don't know how, and I'm queer, chronically ill and isolated.

  • Kelli Dunham RN BSN
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Care Web Toolkit

  • Heather Corinna
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  • Jacob Mirzaian
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Pelvis Problems: Anodyspareunia (aka: Pain with Butt Stuff)

  • Caitlyn Tivy PT, DPT, OCS

Here because you or your partner(s) have experienced pain with anal sex, whether multiple times or just once? You’re in the right place!

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Love and Asperger's: An Interview with Kate McNulty, LCSW

  • Lisa Laman

Two smart, insightful and autistic people who like talking about relationships walk into an interview…

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The Importance of Becoming the Examples We Want to See

  • Lisa Laman

Being surrounded by other autistic people, I find a rare secure place to socialize, one that let me start to discover other places I could be social in, too.

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How Do I Tell If Someone Is Into Me?

  • Lisa Laman

You can read a book. You can read a map. But reading people, that’s difficult in any situation.

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Body Talk: Listening To and Learning From Your Chronic Pain

  • Amanda Lehr

For those of us with chronic pain, living our lives with other people – be that with sex or something else – can be tricky.

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A Brief Guide to Consenting with a Nonverbal Partner

  • Eva Sweeney

Here are some tips on how to seek and obtain consent with nonverbal partners and how to communicate so sex can be safe, satisfying and fun for everyone.

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The Unholy Din of First Dates for Someone With Autism (And How To Avoid It)

  • Lisa Laman

The lack of good dating options can help to compound problems people on the Autism spectrum already have with dating. Lisa Laman has some tips!

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Getting to Know Your “New Normal”: Tips for Sex When You Have Pelvic Pain

  • Nicole Guappone

If you have chronic pelvic pain, what do you do if you want to get sexual with yourself or someone else? If it starts hurting, should you stop?

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Autism, Romance And How We See Other People

  • Lisa Laman

Just because you face your own set of specific challenges doesn’t mean you get a free pass to discount the humanity of someone else.

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Sex & Spasticity

  • Eva Sweeney

People often have day-to-day coping mechanisms to help manage their spasticity, but what do you do when you have spasticity and want to have sex?