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During my first year of high school (I am now 23 years old) I was moderately sexually active. When this topic came up with my friends, it somehow got blown out of proportion and over the next couple of years I began to self-identify as a slut. After that, I started engaging in more and more risky sexual behavior as kind of a "Okay fine, I'm a slut so this is what I'm supposed to do" sort of thing.

Looking back now, I don't think I was having any more sex than a lot of my friends, I was just the only one willing to talk about it as a positive thing (or, I TRIED to talk about it as a positive thing). Also, I don't remember any of my friends or peers in high school talking about being sexually active as a casual thing - as is talked about in the blog, there were two groups: people who had lots of sex and got labeled as sluts and the people who abstained (or talked about abstaining) and got labeled as prudes (or straight edge or whatever) And I think that is one problem with this - until we can redefine the language we use when we're talking about young people being sexually active, this crazy stereotype of the two (and only two) groups is going to be the norm.