experimentation

A short, fast, sex ed summary about masturbation.

Surviving in the sexual wilds -- and having your great adventures be just that, great -- involves some basic smarts, skills and conscious effort. Let’s see what we can do to help make all your trails happy ones.

A few years back I was at a sex and disability conference in San Francisco. Tom Shakespeare, an author, disabled activist, and disability scholar, was giving the opening talk and he began by saying that as disabled people the real problem is usually not how to have sex, but who to have sex with. Eli...

Anonymous' question continued At the moment, I didn't think much about how it will affect us. I just let him and he did it for a very long time. It was almost about a full half-hour when I came. He swallowed and everything. And then it hits me that my BEST FRIEND just gave me a blowjob. He went to...

Orgasms will tend to last anywhere from a few seconds to less than a minute for most people, most of the time. Orgasms for people with vaginas often tend to last a bit longer than orgasms for people with penises -- but for people of all genders, we're still talking within an average of a few seconds...

Here's the kicker: there's nothing we can do or know which will guarantee that a partner will enjoy something we do. Nothing. One facet of readiness for partnered sex has to do with being able to accept that and be okay with it. Another part is knowing that no matter what we do, there are probably...

It's important to remember that partnered sex isn't just about your preferences and wants, it's also about the preferences and wants of your partner. Partnered sex isn't a solo: it's a duet, and what you're going for is harmony. You're going to find those wants and preferences out by experimenting...

Any kind of sex between people of the same gender is as normal as sex between people of different genders as far as I am concerned. In other words, it is normal -- and has always been relatively common -- for people of all genders and stripes to have sexual intimacy or to explore sexuality together...

It is okay to have a desire to explore sex with the same gender; it is okay to have a desire to explore sex with people of a different gender. We also don't need to view any of that exploration as an "experiment," nor is same-gender sex somehow more of an experiment than mixed-gender sex is. I mean...