pleasure

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  • Jacob Mirzaian

Hi feministconundrums, Genital sensitivity -- and sometimes sensitivity of some other body parts, too -- is common for many people after orgasm. The length of time after an orgasm that it can or does last varies from person to person, experience to experience and it can often vary with age too. It...

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  • Heather Corinna

If cunnilingus isn't an activity he enjoys, and he's made clear he doesn't enjoy it and doesn't want to do it, in my book you don't bring it up again as something you want. He's made clear it's just not for him right now, and he tried it twice to see. He knows you're interested in it, so he's...

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  • Heather Corinna

The term "sexuality" can be used a lot like the word "sex." They're both terms we say and hear a lot, but which often aren't clearly defined. We take for granted everyone knows what sexuality means, a heck of an assumption to make with something that covers so many important things and can feel as murky as Lake Erie. So: what's it all about?

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  • Heather Corinna

Assuming that you're engaging in manual sex -- hands or fingers engaged with your genitals, fingering being one term for that -- to express or explore your sexual feelings or desires, fingering IS sex. Just like intercourse can be sex, just like oral sex can be sex, just like full-body massage can...

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  • Heather Corinna

There are gay or bisexual men who love or like anal sex, it's true. But there are also gay or bisexual men who don't like it, or who just aren't interested in it. There are heterosexual men who don't like anal sex or aren't interested in it, either. There are also heterosexual men who like or love...

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  • Heather Corinna

I want to start by debunking a few things, especially one thing you said which anyone who helps people with sexuality for their job hears all the time. That's what you said about the rest of the human population enjoying sex. When we talk about sex as something people usually do because they enjoy...

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  • Heather Corinna

I asked my hands-down favorite writer about sex and disability, Cory Silverberg, to answer this one for you. Here's what Cory had to say: It already sounds like you have a good sense of what's happening with your body since the spinal cord injury and one of the great things about having incredible...

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  • Johanna Schorn

We get a lot of questions from users who wonder whether there is a certain way they should act or feel or look, if the way they are doing things is weird or normal, or if there is something wrong with them or how they feel or act or look. I'd say that that topic is in the top three of our most...

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  • Heather Corinna

I thought that your question was a great opportunity for some peer-to-peer education. So, I asked Arianna, an awesome Scarleteen reader your age who always seems to do a great job getting to the heart of things, if she'd help you out. She was happy to do so, and gave you some great advice, resources...

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  • Heather Corinna

As it is on the road, being attentive to and giving clear signs and signals is a big deal between the sheets. If navigating consent feels complicated or confusing, here's a guide to clear it up.