How to tame those scary, growly feelings and use them for good.
communication
- Johanna Schorn
I am really glad to hear that you have a close relationship with your mom. That can be tricky to maintain throughout the teen years, but for many people having a close relationship with parents is important, so it is awesome that you two seem to be doing great on that front. A big part of the reason...
- Mo Ranyart
Hi, bifabulous! Congrats on becoming more aware of your own sexuality! Sadly, you're right: some people do harbor misconceptions and sexist notions about bisexual women. Racism and sexism added to the mix make the issue even thornier; as you said, there are a lot of harmful stereotypes about Asian...
- Sam Wall
Having a parent walk in on us when we're doing something sexual is one of those things that is awkward at best and awful at worst. Our families, while not the only source of messages about sex, are definitely one source that leaves a big impression. So, it's not surprising that, even though you've...
- Sam Wall
Let's tackle those apparently "raging" hormones first. Having strong sexual desires is nothing to be ashamed of. People have a range of sex drives, from high to non-existent, and even then, that's rarely static: in other words, it's often less a "way people are," than a way someone is at a given...
- Sam Wall
Let me first say that questions like yours are really common. Sorting through fantasies can be a tricky business and it's sound to think about whether what we fantasize about is something we actually want to try. Our sexual fantasies, just like other kinds of fantasy, often aren't things we want to...
- Sam Wall
Ah -- long distance relationships! It seems more and more as if, at some point in life, experiencing long-distance with a romantic or sexual partner (or friend, or family member: any kind of person we care about and can be in a relationship with) is inevitable. In fact, our volunteer Joey wrote an...
- Heather Corinna
Hey there, Dylan: I'm really glad you came here with these questions: I think they're some good ones. Let's start with talking about what goes on, or can go on, on the dance floor with these girls, and with consent, and then we can get to what your friends are saying and how to deal with that. You...
- Heather Corinna
I want to get something basic and important sorted first: there's never a healthy way to "get" anyone to have sex with us when they don't want to. Someone either wants to be sexual with us or they don't, and when they don't, that's something we just need to accept, not try and change. If and when we...
- Heather Corinna
Before I say anything else, I know the answer to every question related to sex with an "Is it normal?" in it is something you're supposed to answer yes to, and if you don't, it can be perceived as not being nice or trying to hurt someone's feelings. But please understand that "normal" isn't a word I...