Reclaiming your sexuality after sexual abuse can be complicated. Your previous partner has left you with a whole mess of shame and trauma. None of this is your fault, he is the one who chose to hurt and manipulate you, I’m sorry that you had to go through that and are now facing the work of picking...
communication
- Sam Wall
You’re facing down a process that, according to a bazillion sitcoms and teen dramas, ought to fill you with dread: introducing the person you're dating to your parents and trying to peacefully navigate their feelings about your budding romance.
- Heather Corinna
You are not being unreasonable. I don’t think his response and behavior about the lube is fine. I don’t think it’s okay for him to tell you that not having sex isn’t a big deal for you, or to tell you how important sex is to your relationship for both of you. I don’t think it’s fine for him to be...
- s.e. smith
Sex isn't a tit-for-tat experience, but communicating can help you build a mutually pleasurable and fun sex life.
- Hannah Boning
It sounds like you’ve put a lot of thought into what you want from a romantic and sexual relationship, and that’s great! It’s always good to spend some time figuring out what you want and need before you start a relationship. By knowing yourself and your boundaries, you’ve got a solid foundation for...
- Al Washburn
What would the world look like if we made a habit of thinking about personal boundaries in our everyday lives?
- Heather Corinna
I think what you both should do — or more to the point, the only sound thing I think you can do — is accept each of your feelings and wants instead of trying to change them. I also think it's important you let your girlfriend know that she should work to accept her feelings as well. I think it would...
- Marianne Kirby
A lot of people are talking about "bad sex" when they mean coercive sex. So let's have a conversation about when sex just isn't satisfying.
- Mo Ranyart
The good news is that there's no secret to bringing up unconventional sex acts with a partner; the same basic communication skills that are needed to talk about any other kinds of sex are what's needed here. The bad news is...well, that there's no secret to it! The simple answer to your question is...
- Mo Ranyart
First off, it's great that you've found a sexual orientation that you identify strongly with! Regardless of if and when you talk about this with anyone else, it's an exciting and positive thing to understand and accept about yourself, so: congratulations! When contemplating coming out, remember that...