communication

No matter what THEIR reasons are for holding off on any kind of sex, all of you need to be respecting the choices each of you makes for yourself. So, if you’re making different choices than they are, the choices you want to make, this discussion with them shouldn’t be going on over and over again…

As you and your partner consider sexual activity, it is great that you’re seeking out information and resources to help prepare you. It also sounds like you have been talking about this together, which means that you’ve already crossed a big hurdle that a lot of people get stuck on. So in order to…

Well, if you’re just feeling strong sexual desire, not any attachment to that particular person, then masturbation is generally the best solution. Really, that’s the thing to do, always, when we don’t want intimacy with someone else, but only or solely want to just satisfy our own sexual needs and…

For a pregnancy risk to occur, sperm must have contact with your vulva. You say you don’t think this happened, so I don’t see any pregnancy risk here. Also, missing one pill at the beginning of your cycles does not greatly decrease it’s effectivness. As there is no pregnancy risk, emergency…

It has NEVER been safe to try and terminate a pregnancy with a wire hanger, for crying out loud. PLEASE hear that. Abortions with wire hangers are remnants of the horror stories – true ones, sadly – from the days when abortion was illegal. Many women had to have backalley abortions at high cost…

It sounds to me like it’s time for you to think about what you really want right now in this relationship and then have a good ole’ fashioned sit-down talk with your partner here, honey! First off, what exactly is it that you want in this relationship? Forget for a moment what he may or may not be…

(Anonymous’ question continued) I will try my hardest (as in I will work as long as I can) to help her reach orgasm, but she just can’t seem to. Not once have I managed to make her climax during vaginal or oral sex. The most recent time She came very close, but just as she was about to peak she went…

If he’s only asking for sex, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s pretty safe to assume he isn’t interested in asking you out. He’s expressed his interest: it’s sex. And if you’ve interest in having a boyfriend, and his only interest is in having someone to have sex with, that’s a recipe for disaster…

We hear a lot – for sound reasons – about how intercourse by itself isn’t very satisfying for a majority of cis women. What we hear less about is that it’s also not always satisfying for men. But just because we hear less about it doesn’t mean it’s not an issue for plenty of men. No one sexual…

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…