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Consent is Sexy

Consent is Sexy [1]
What is consent? What is sexy? Why is consent sexy?

What is consent [2]?
* Consent is a voluntary, sober, imaginative, enthusiastic, creative, wanted, informed, mutual, honest, and verbal agreement
* Consent is an active agreement: Consent cannot be coerced
* Consent is a process, which must be asked for every step of the way; if you want to move to the next level of sexual [3] intimacy, just ask
* Consent is never implied and cannot be assumed, even in the context of a relationship [4]. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you have permission to have sex [5] with your partner [6]
* A person who is intoxicated cannot legally give consent. If you’re too drunk to make decisions and communicate with your partner, you’re too drunk to consent
* The absence of a “no” doesn’t mean “yes”
* Both people should be involved in the decision to have sex
* Consent is an important part of healthy sexuality
* It is not sexy to have sex without consent!!

What is sexy?
* Challenging myths about sex and consent, such as the stud vs. slut [7] stereotype [8]
* Communicating with your partner about sex
* To know and be able to communicate the type of sexual relationship you want
* Knowing how to protect yourself and your partner against pregnancy [9] and STIs
* Acknowledging that you and your partner(s) have sexual needs and desires: Yes, it is okay for women and men to both want and enjoy sex
* Knowing your personal beliefs and values and respecting your partner’s personal beliefs and values
* Confidence and self-esteem
* Challenges stereotypes that rape [10] is a women’s issue
* Challenging sexism [11]

Why is consent sexy?
* Communication, respect, and honesty make sex and relationships better
* Asking for and obtaining consent shows that you have respect for both yourself and your partner
* Positive views on sex and sexuality are empowering
* Questions traditional views about gender [12] and sexuality
* Eliminates the entitlement that one partner feels over the other. Neither your body nor your sexuality belongs to someone else
* It is normal and healthy for women to expect to be included in the consent process
* What do you think makes consent sexy?

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[1] http://www.uhs.uga.edu/consent/index.html
[2] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#consent
[3] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sexual
[4] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#relationship
[5] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sex
[6] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#partner
[7] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#slut
[8] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#stereotype
[9] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#pregnancy
[10] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#rape
[11] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sexism
[12] https://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#gender