I'm a lesbian and I've had a girlfriend since last year. Things were going great, but now he's my boyfriend, L. I don't have an issue with L being trans at all, but I don't feel anything for him anymore and I don't feel comfortable dating him if he's not a woman (or at least woman-aligned). I don't want to hurt his feelings since he's having trouble being accepted by his parents and people at school, and I don't want us to stop being friends, but I really want to break up with him. To make things worse, I lied earlier in the year when he asked about this same problem, and I said I didn't have a problem with dating him now that he's out. How do I break up with him in a way that won't hurt him or our friendship?