rape culture
Music With Lyrics: Finding Your Way Back to Yourself After Sexual Assault
Will the Real Bad Sex Please Stand Up?
Enough with "Alleged" and Other Weasel Words
Casting doubt on rape victims/survivors is so normalized that weasel words are built into how the media talks about their cases.
A Sex Positive and Transformative Justice Approach to #MeToo
Creating Consent Culture: Ten Questions With Kitty Stryker
We're some of consent's biggest fans around here, so we're thrilled to have gotten a chance to interview Kitty Stryker about the new anthology she spearheaded, Ask: Building Consent Culture.
Rape is a Complicated Thing
There are a lot of people who, upon hearing the details without the context, would also be quick to tell me that it really isn’t a big deal and really isn’t rape. But the thing is, rape is a complicated thing. Rape needs context.
On Belief
I am tired of disbelief.
I am tired of skepticism.
I am someone who does, genuinely, believe in the value of looking at things with a critical eye, of being cautious, of acknowledging that there are two sides to every story.
But I am tired of it when it comes to people who have been, or are being, harmed or made vulnerable.
If Guys are Coerced by Girls, Is It Still Sexual Abuse?
A friend of mine was in a relationship about 2 years ago. He's a guy. His girlfriend at the time pressured him into doing oral sex by saying that if he didn't do it that meant he didn't love her. Would that be sexual abuse? Because if a guy pressured a girl into giving him a blow job that would be considered sexual abuse and I'm just double-checking to see if that goes both ways....
This is What a SlutWalk (Really) Looks Like
Today I want to briefly address the way that the walks have been visually represented in the media and by many bloggers writing about them, especially those who have been nonsupportive or critical.
In a word, they have frequently been represented by photographs which expressly stated or just implied they represent what people at the walks looked like as a whole, and have been anywhere from just incorrect to exceptionally dishonest in those assertions or implications. Because as far as I can tell, the images that keep getting picked aren't those which are most representative of the protests as a whole, but which are most representative of what a given person either found most provocative or most interesting. Or, which best represent their reasons for nonsupport or mockery.
Because yes, it really DOES happen: A thank you to SlutWalks
I want to tell you something very personal about me. Not because I want to. I really don't want to. But I'm going to do it anyway.