I have been struggling with being blamed for my rapes. For being alone, outside too early in the morning. For being at a party. For trusting my boyfriend. I've felt guilty and haven't seemed help for any of this because, up until now, I've felt I deserved the pain I though I'd inflicted on myself. After reading this, however, I feel so much better about what was done to me. I now feel the need to get emotional help because I know I did not do this to myself. They did this to me. I no longer feel responsible for I did nothing wrong and for this I thank you Heather. Ive read a lot of your articles about rape and I'm starting to feel it's time to begin healing. Thank you so much for sharing so much with us. You've made a huge difference in my life.